"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I find female friends to be the most difficult to deal with since I actually care about their feelings when im interacting with them. On the other hand, their just friends and I dont wana be like those other guys who act all lovey dovey with their female FRIENDS


Let me give you an example, I have a friend who ive known since I was 3 years old. She frequently says "i love u" and other things similar to that. No there is no attraction, shes like family. I never respond and she always seems to get pissy. I feel like saying things like that to a FRIEND seems really lame.


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dude, don't listen to BigBance.

She says she loves you because she is afriad of you getting another FRIEND that is a girl. What I would do is, if you say this girl is like family, go out with a cousin just as FRIENDS. See what thats like, and act upon it.
 
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BigBacneProblem said:
Sounds to me like you're gay.

She acts that way toward you because she knows you're not interested in hooking up with her, you know, like a gay dude.
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No he's not. He's not attracted to one women? So he's gay haha. You could try asking her WHY she loves you. or play around and say "I love you too", if she's not serious. Of course' you could just stop being bothered by it.
 
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slightoverbite said:
dude, don't listen to BigBance.

She says she loves you because she is afriad of you getting another FRIEND that is a girl. What I would do is, if you say this girl is like family, go out with a cousin just as FRIENDS. See what thats like, and act upon it.
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my female cousins arent affectionate with me like that. i dunno, something about saying "i love you too" to a girl ur not even getting coochie off just seems so afc to me lol

on the other hand, i dont want her to think im being cold towards her, i care for her like a sister
 
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Well like I said saying "I love you" back isn't the only option. You can ask her why she loves you or play around with her and say "I love you" back, but in a playful tone and joke around with her. Or you can just try "I know". But silence isn't working man.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ElStud said:
Well like I said saying "I love you" back isn't the only option. You can ask her why she loves you or play around with her and say "I love you" back, but in a playful tone and joke around with her. Or you can just try "I know". But silence isn't working man.
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id feel like a douche saying i love you too, no matter in what tone
"i know" is something id say to a girl id try to game, seems too ****y to a girl im good friends with

bahhhh
 
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well what i kind of meant, and i guess i didn't make it clear, was to try it outon a cousin. you can't mess up bc ur not going to sleep with her or anything. just tell your cousin you love her and see if she says it back kindingly liek your FRIEND who is a girl says it to you.
 
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slightoverbite said:
well what i kind of meant, and i guess i didn't make it clear, was to try it outon a cousin. you can't mess up bc ur not going to sleep with her or anything. just tell your cousin you love her and see if she says it back kindingly liek your FRIEND who is a girl says it to you.
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make sense ill give it a go
 
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"I love me too"
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"I like how we love the same things..."
-really?
"Yeah, me..."
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"Prove it"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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