"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Intellince and Emotion

HollowHorizon

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A while back ago, a girl i would say a hb8 wanted to have sex with me and she pointed out that it had somthing to do with how emotional i was and it turned her on, for example how i would use words and veiw things etc. Now i feel like im an ******* always arrogant and rude, i tend to joke when i shoulden't. You see i cant seem to find words and the point of views i used to have, my vocabulary went to ****.....Any way i could improve????




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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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erase your concepts, become caring again, hang with friends and try not to be too arrogant with them... and than ask this question... You are in a rut, and you need to go back to your roots and realize what you are doing.

I hope somebody else will guess though, it will be so much easier than. For my case, it is the opposite, I am too caring and emotional, I need to become hard assed and direct, damned this information age...
 

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PS what is intellince and what does it have to do with your topic?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think he's talking about emotional maturity as well as being intelligent in terms of up to his level.


Ie. My IQ is 140, from this post I am going to assume the poster's IQ is from 100-120. I would not get along with him in person because I'd crush him with my intellectual prowess but emotionally he's probably better. This is where emotional intelligence makes a bigger difference because everyone is a social creature. I'd prefer to date a girl that had an IQ higher than 120 but not higher than mines, I'd also prefer to date a woman that was emotionally mature as I am. It's okay, people who are under 21 are dumb emotionally and intellectually. Well some of them intellectually.

Emotional intelligence is about being responsible for your feelings as well as being assertive at understanding other emotions.
 
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Holy fvck for such a smart boy you sure do mess up a lot in English. Please tell me it isn't your first language. ;) Anyways, I guess all of this talk about crushing someone with your "intellectual prowess" is just overcompensation, you know like the guy who claims to have a 12 inch penis but actually has a 2 inch:D. But oh well, at least he doesn't want a girl with an IQ higher than, as he so eloquently put it, "mines." That might be too much. :p Aber ej, vielleicht kannst du auch Deutsch und du wolltest halt "meins" sagen. Geil! Du kannst Denglisch! Anyways buddy I'm going to end this post becuase I am under 21 and by your flawless logic I must be "dumb emotionally and intellectually." Because God knows all people under 21 are dumb as rocks. :p
 
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