meldiamond
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So I've noticed this the past few weeks with a new extended social circle. 99% of them know each other from work and school. I am pretty much the new guy who only knows a few people in the group and not that well either. I've noticed that most everyone in this group is ridiculously highly sensitive.
For example, one hapa girl in the group approached me at the bar. We chatted for only a minute. Someone was bumping past and they distracted me for a split second and I looked over my shoulder. This girl skeedadled almost instantly.
Second example: I was talking to a bro about mutual interests last week. We had a good conversation for about 10 minutes or so. But similarly, something distracted me from behind. I was actually waiting for an uber and thought I saw the lights flashing for the car through the window so I looked behind me. He happened to be talking but my attention was averted for a second or so. He looked very sad when I turned back around and I decided to excuse myself. Saw him again just the other night and he was very cold towards me instead of friendly, gregarious like last time.
Third example: again, very similar situation. I was talking to this hot girl for a good long time. However, there were several other people in the group but thought it might be rude if I didn't talk to them as well. So I turn to talk to another person, just to acknowledge. Same thing. She becomes very sad, withdrawn, hurt.
From what I can tell: if I lose focus on the person I'm talking to for even a second they are personally offended. They have an involuntary emotional response. Of course I don't mean to offend them, but I sometimes get distracted briefly.
Is this your experience as well? All of these people are highly educated, or working in good jobs, they tend to be good looking and well dressed. BUT they seem sensitive, almost hyper-sensitive. It seems like there is a correlation. Your experiences?
For example, one hapa girl in the group approached me at the bar. We chatted for only a minute. Someone was bumping past and they distracted me for a split second and I looked over my shoulder. This girl skeedadled almost instantly.
Second example: I was talking to a bro about mutual interests last week. We had a good conversation for about 10 minutes or so. But similarly, something distracted me from behind. I was actually waiting for an uber and thought I saw the lights flashing for the car through the window so I looked behind me. He happened to be talking but my attention was averted for a second or so. He looked very sad when I turned back around and I decided to excuse myself. Saw him again just the other night and he was very cold towards me instead of friendly, gregarious like last time.
Third example: again, very similar situation. I was talking to this hot girl for a good long time. However, there were several other people in the group but thought it might be rude if I didn't talk to them as well. So I turn to talk to another person, just to acknowledge. Same thing. She becomes very sad, withdrawn, hurt.
From what I can tell: if I lose focus on the person I'm talking to for even a second they are personally offended. They have an involuntary emotional response. Of course I don't mean to offend them, but I sometimes get distracted briefly.
Is this your experience as well? All of these people are highly educated, or working in good jobs, they tend to be good looking and well dressed. BUT they seem sensitive, almost hyper-sensitive. It seems like there is a correlation. Your experiences?
