"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This might not be what you're expecting it to be.

I had to change plans with R on account of some extra hours at work I couldn't avoid. Naturally I did it ahead of time and arranged another date with R on the spot. R was cool with that and didn't give me any grief about changing plans.

I met R last night and as it turns out she'd been blindsided with some kind of viral infection earlier in the week (sexy huh!), serious enough to put her in hospital for a few days. It was easy to see she was still struggling with it a bit.

In spite of that she turned up, on time, and gave it everything, completely, totally engaged in the date....when she wasn't coughing, lol. What was particularly interesting was that she hinted at the idea that most girls are terrible flakes and that she didn't want to be identified as one.

Seriously, what a trooper, credit to her gender. I think she'll be lynched by her 'sistas' if word gets out about this though.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wilko said:
This might not be what you're expecting it to be.

I had to change plans with R on account of some extra hours at work I couldn't avoid. Naturally I did it ahead of time and arranged another date with R on the spot. R was cool with that and didn't give me any grief about changing plans.

I met R last night and as it turns out she'd been blindsided with some kind of viral infection earlier in the week (sexy huh!), serious enough to put her in hospital for a few days. It was easy to see she was still struggling with it a bit.

In spite of that she turned up, on time, and gave it everything, completely, totally engaged in the date....when she wasn't coughing, lol. What was particularly interesting was that she hinted at the idea that most girls are terrible flakes and that she didn't want to be identified as one.

Seriously, what a trooper, credit to her gender. I think she'll be lynched by her 'sistas' if word gets out about this though.
The one time a girl has a legit reason to flake, she doesn't. Oh the irony.
 

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Or high interest level? What makes you so sure that if she had lower interest she would go trough with it?
 

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That goes to show that when a woman is interested in you, she will move mountains to see you.

That's why you should always eject when a girl is hemming and hawing about getting together.
 

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Oh I'd like to take credit for it and say that I spiked her IL through the roof with my C&F and demonstrations of social proof (TIC)...but I think she actually has her sh!t together, that simple. I really didn't spend much time building rapport with her prior to the date, but maybe there's a lesson in that also.

Probably not my type looks-wise (I like them shorter and smaller), but she gets to round two just on the basis of being such a trooper. Figure it pays to reward that kind of behaviour on the rare occasions you do come across it, you know, for the general betterment of society, haha.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Atom Smasher said:
That goes to show that when a woman is interested in you, she will move mountains to see you.
Gold.
 

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You should rename this thread to 'Interest level? Check'.

I dont see any integrity here, she hasn't donated her life savings to a dolphin charity.
 
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