"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Instant Messaging

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ChocolateVanilla

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What are your guy's thoughts on instant messaging a girl to get to know her before meeting up with her? A lot of guys use e-mails and myspace pages and Instant messaging seems more effective to me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Play the Game

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A lot of guys on these forums have hang ups about using ims and txts.
Personally i don't think it matters, as long as you convey the same personality, confidence and lack of neediness in your communication it doesn't matter what form it's in. I use phone calls when i'm gonna meet up with the girl before hand, because it's easier to communicate but other than that txts are fine for a couple words.
 
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Do a search on this site. There are PLENTY of great chat logs you can use as an example of what to say online and then get laid.

Not that I am condoning using another DJ's lines as your own, but whatever works.
 
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it's just another method of communication
 
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TT2CiN

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My Name is Nobody said:
Do a search on this site. There are PLENTY of great chat logs you can use as an example of what to say online and then get laid.

Not that I am condoning using another DJ's lines as your own, but whatever works.
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Links? What do you type in search to get these chat logs, cause I haven't seen to many on this site.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Do a search on this site. There are PLENTY of great chat logs you can use as an example of what to say online and then get laid.

Not that I am condoning using another DJ's lines as your own, but whatever works.
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yea where are the chat logs?
 
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