For some reason even if I know there's a party or something, I'm never inspired to go and I always make excuses why NOT to go. For instance there was a party today which I could've got my sister to take me too but I didn't go because of the excuse that it was "too far". And tommorow this girl's having a party, but I'm already starting to make excuses about that. "Only 23 people on Facebook are supposedly going to the party" "What if my ride can't find the place?" "What if it was invitation only and I don't get in?" all excuses I make NOT to go out. So tell me, how can I get inspired to actually go out and not stay in the house all day?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Inspiration to go out?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
realize that life will pass you by if your not careful. sounds like you may be scared to leave your comfort zone. when you leave your comfort zone good things happen....you meet new people,new chicks. life's all about meeting people you connect with. if you dont leave the house you don't grow and learn new ****. turn off the xbox and the tv and the computer and go live your life.
Think about it man.
Your 18, still young. Think about 5 years from now...your going to look back and be like..."Damn, all those parties I could've gone to back then..."
LIVE A LIFE OF NO REGRETS!
Just stop making excuses and GO!
Just make sure you know the host or at least 2-3 of people at the party since it might get awkward for you.
BUT...you can meet new people instead. Just introduce yourself, relax, and have fun. When your having fun and enjoying yourself people will gravitate towards you.
Why? because parties are for the sole purpose of having FUN. People want to have FUN.
good luck at the party bro, apply some of the stuff you read on this board. (have the mindset your ALREADY going to the party, and you'll go)
Your 18, still young. Think about 5 years from now...your going to look back and be like..."Damn, all those parties I could've gone to back then..."
LIVE A LIFE OF NO REGRETS!
Just stop making excuses and GO!
Just make sure you know the host or at least 2-3 of people at the party since it might get awkward for you.
BUT...you can meet new people instead. Just introduce yourself, relax, and have fun. When your having fun and enjoying yourself people will gravitate towards you.
Why? because parties are for the sole purpose of having FUN. People want to have FUN.
good luck at the party bro, apply some of the stuff you read on this board. (have the mindset your ALREADY going to the party, and you'll go)
But isn't that what you wanted to begin with?ElStud said:
Heck, I'd probably crash the damn thing, especially if I knew there were going to be hot girls there.
The guy who posted earlier is right, you won't get a chance to do these parties over again when you're 40 and looking back with regrets on how much fun you missed. Get out there and make it happen!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You might just have to make peace with the fact that you're lame. Where's this party at? 