"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Insomnia

Phoenix_of_the_ashes

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Every morning I fight myself to get out of bed around 9, I still feel really tired all day long and it affects my studying, which is really important, and my training. I did some reading on the internet and I found out, that not being able to get enough sleep is also called insomnia.

Im just wondering if anybody knows what I can do against this or if anybody has experiences with this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you're getting to sleep at 11pm, you don't have insomnia. It sounds like you're getting a full 10 hours of sleep in each night - the problem likely lies in your activity level or diet, not any medical condition that you have. You may wish to start working out regularly if you haven't already, as well as begin eating right.

Insomnia is characterized as being an inability to fall asleep - and is not a disease in and of itself. Even if you weren't able to fall asleep (had insomnia), it would be a symptom of an underlying condition which would mean you probably would need to visit a psychologist. However, since you don't have it, you don't - I hope?
 

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yeah, i usualyl go to sleep at mindight, and wake up at 6... and i feel peachy. but, then again, im a morning person.

I feel like its a waste to stay in bed until 9 or later.

im trying to go to bed at 11 right now, because 6 hours of sleep will eventually catch up with me
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sleeping for 10 hours is a bit long. I know that when I sleep for 10 hours I feel pretty tired all day, and I think most people are the same way. Maybe try setting your alarm to wake you up 7-8 hours after you plan on falling asleep.

When I've got no reason to be up at a certain time I'll usually just keep hitting the snooze button over and over again. Those are the days that I sleep a long time. So maybe you could start planning your schedule so that you do things earlier in the day, so that you'll force yourself to wake up on less sleep. Sleeping too much is actually not healthy for you, believe it or not. It also might be a symptom of minor depression...
 

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Originally posted by diablo
If you're getting to sleep at 11pm, you don't have insomnia. It sounds like you're getting a full 10 hours of sleep in each night - the problem likely lies in your activity level or diet, not any medical condition that you have. You may wish to start working out regularly if you haven't already, as well as begin eating right.

Insomnia is characterized as being an inability to fall asleep - and is not a disease in and of itself. Even if you weren't able to fall asleep (had insomnia), it would be a symptom of an underlying condition which would mean you probably would need to visit a psychologist. However, since you don't have it, you don't - I hope?
I do sports almost everyday, two days a week weights and three times Muay Thai.

How exactly do activitylevel and diet affect my sleep habits?
 

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if none of the common sense things work out for you, you might want to talk to your doctor, and perhaps see a sleep specialist. If this is something that has plagued you your whole life, it could very well be a disorder of some type. If it is something that has only sprung up recently, it is most likely psychological, and simple things like getting 8 hours of sleep, not drinking coffee/coke, etc. will eventually get you back to where you need to be.

EDIT: Some helpful websites with active forums:
www.talkaboutsleep.com
www.sleepnet.com
 
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