Insecurity

[Deputy]

About 2 months ago I was dating a girl which I liked.
After the first date, she openly told me how she had sex with previous guys and the mistakes she made during sex.This made me insecure for some reason. I told her that I didn't want to know how she had sex with other guys. I stopped dating her for this reason.

But now if I see a girl, the first thing I think is: "how many guys has she had sex before?"
It's messing with my head.

I am trying to do more work for school and focusing on my body, but the thoughts aren't going away.

What should I try ?

 

[Alpheta]

Its not insecurity. Nothing wrong in wanting that which is not tainted or 2nd hand. Embrace it. Don't let the 21st century man brainwash you in to thinking that something is wrong with you for wanting top tier material.

 

[Deputy]

Its not insecurity. Nothing wrong in wanting that which is not tainted or 2nd hand. Embrace it. Don't let the 21st century man brainwash you in to thinking that something is wrong with you for wanting top tier material.

I don't mind if a girl had previous boyfriends. I don't like it when they have sex with any boy they just met from the club or bar for like 15 times in a half year.

 

[Alpheta]

I don't mind if a girl had previous boyfriends. I don't like it when they have sex with any boy they just met from the club or bar for like 15 times in a half year.

You have a right not to. You dont look for scraps. Thats your principle and stick by it. Its good to know you hold yourself high enough.

 

[Deputy]

You have a right not to. You dont look for scraps. Thats your principle and stick by it. Its good to know you hold yourself high enough.

Thanks for the post. Made me think differently.

 

[Atom Smasher]

The fact is, women tend to love a man's past sexual experience and men, conversely, generally despise it in a woman. With women, clearly the concept of "social proof" is behind their attitude toward a man's sexual history.

I believe that for men, however, there is something entirely different at play. The man is the "giver", the woman, the "receiver". When a woman has sex with a man, she receives a part of him and absorbs his very essence into her being. Women carry every partner inside of their very core until the day they die. They absorb him physically, emotionally , and spiritually. This is naturally repulsive to a man.

That's why many partners wrecks a woman's core. You can usually see it in their faces, especially as they age. Each partner a woman has tends to disintegrate her originally integrated feminine core.

This is the way of nature. Women's wiring is to latch onto a provider for her and her children and to be his support and sexual release. Men are wired to sow their seed around.

Fairness, of course, has nothing to do with it. The entire reason we're in this mess of weak men and the rise of the cancer called, "feminism", is this entirely mythical idea of "fairness". Things just are when it comes to nature and our hard-wiring. Mother nature knows not the human construct of "fairness".

It is perfectly natural for a man to be repulsed by a woman's past. She carries each previous partner with her because she receives him in mind, body, and spirit.

 

[wifehunter]

Great thread!!!

Yeah, there's a reason virgins are considered valueable to some people. There's something about that untouched element... Also, there are no physical / emotional attachment scars to deal with.

Emotional wounds last like being burned, and they always leave a scar.
Also consider that women are emotional creatures, so these kinds of things can turn their lives upsidedown. The physical side is more obvious.

 

[marmel75]

About 2 months ago I was dating a girl which I liked.
After the first date, she openly told me how she had sex with previous guys and the mistakes she made during sex.This made me insecure for some reason. I told her that I didn't want to know how she had sex with other guys. I stopped dating her for this reason.

But now if I see a girl, the first thing I think is: "how many guys has she had sex before?"
It's messing with my head.

I am trying to do more work for school and focusing on my body, but the thoughts aren't going away.

What should I try ?

Lol, dude get over it or you are going to be a monk the rest of your life. Women like fvcking more than guys do, either accept it or move to a Monastery.