Insecurity

[April_Infinite]

This is a problem I'm always facing with women I DJ. Somehow, women believe they are too fat, ugly, or any combination of absurd things to even consider the fact that you are hitting on them, even though they are gorgeous.


I always thought that I could take advantage of these types of people, maybe by getting them thinking you are the only one who finds them attractive (which isn't true), they would be more inclined to be seduced by me. But it doesn't really work out. They ignore anything you do.
I'll even say something totally absurd and AFC just for the fun of it, like "You are very pretty," and they'll shrug it off, saying they are ugly, and ignoring the fact that you practically just kissed their feet.


Do you have any ideas on ways to take advantage of women who are feeling this way?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

yeah... when they mention that they feel fat, ugly, etc... they are fishing for compliments.

and what you did is you took the bait and gave them just what they wanted.

plus you sound too polite if you're trying to get into any sexual relation with them.

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either say nothing about their looks and continue a different topic (if you aren't dating or serious with each other)

or say "what are you talking about? you hot!" (which is better if you ARE dating).

or throw in a lame-funny canned line like (works for dating or not):
you- "...what? i thought you were in karate?"
her- "what? why?"
you- "because i think your sh-t is kickin'!"

 

[saber101]

when they call themselves fat, thats a perfect opportunity for a neg
one suggested by a fellow dj "thats okay, i like big women"

 

[avrilishot]

I think when girls do this they just want more compliments that all. attention *****s.

 

[April_Infinite]

Making a joke, or changing subjects seem like a fine idea. I just wondered if there was anyway to get a DHV out of the situation without saying the truth, and hurting their feelings, or saying they are hot, and being AFC.