Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting something different

[sadonomspa]

So I thought this issue would not happen again but she has been really distant not returning txts or messages. Last time this happened we made up and she wants to have my kids but since September she has been shady. She did this last time on my birthday in May. She claims she is busy with med school and running clinics all over St.Lucia. It's some no name school who knows what else they do there.

She constantly forgets what she does the day before and is on Prozac,Wellbutrin and now Ritalin. It's like I am speaking to a robot when I do get to speak with her. Anyway I was suppose to visit her and I asked her in the end of October if it was okay to do so, she said "yes as long as you give me notice", the next week I tell her I can probably leave to see her in another two weeks and she said "let me know before you book I might have exams that week" so I tell her yesterday I'd like to see her this Thursday or the weekend and she said "no, I am behind on work and you wouldnt get to see me I am always out of the house". Then I ask her end of the month or maybe her birthday next month and she said "none of those times are good she doesnt know whats going on with school"

I'd love to believe her but I am at a loss. First it's okay to go then its not? She doesn't know when winter break is either? She did this crap to me twice before and that was in the first med school she failed in.

It's like she says shes always working and studying yet I see pictures of her on the beach or at Starbucks.
We are still in a relationship on FB which is another thing she will update before she even speaks to me! It's not even one person she responds to in particular since she left friends have always come first.

She told me she loves me and she will let me know when a good time is. If I knew for sure she wouldn't be manic I would wait and look forward to it but I feel as if I need to break this cycle. The same thing happend with my ex wife. Moved far away and left me.

As a result a girl from facebook who added me years ago decides to contact me and invites me out on Saturday for dinner. Let's face it Saturday is date night and she sees the relationship status on FB. I feel kind of guilty for going but at the same hand if one person did not want to hang out with me this weekend then I might as well go with someone else.

I've never done this but I feel as if the world will pass me by if I don't date. I don't even get a random "hello I miss you" the little things that make relationships nice. Instead I just get a random "Hiiii" once a week if I am lucky. Despite me contacting her all the time(or trying).

I work two jobs and go to school fulltime. I made time to see her but she can't do the same? She use to be a lesbian as well so it makes me feel realllll good when she takes pictures next to hot girls lol

Just need some encouragement. I use to want to be the gentleman and the nice guy but it just is not working out. Any tips for the girl I see this Saturday? What if she asks me about my relationship status? Should I even change it myself?

 

[marmel75]

Start doing what she is doing and she will start doing what you are doing...that is if she hasn't already decided to dump you without dumping you yet. Or she could be fvcking someone else. Bottom line you are helping no one by doing what you are doing.

Find some other women to occupy your time, find a hobby, do something other than thinking of her 24/7

 

[Plutoman]

If you are worried about the whole facebook issue, just hide the relationship section on facebook and don't allow anyone to see whether you are in a relationship. There's all kinds of privacy settings.

In my opinion, just leave the whole relationship subject alone. If you hit it off, sure, break up with the other girl (she'll realize pretty quickly what she's done wrong).

If she asks (which is showing a heck of a lot of interest as is), I'd just tell her that you are getting out of a bad relationship and/or just got out of it. Don't go into details.
^ - Not sure if that's the best thing to do, but it's my first instinct. Get a second opinion. I just dealt with a (fairly) similar situation and simply hid my status. I never asked the girl if she was single, she never asked me if I was, we just hit it off and assumed it was so. Broke up with my now ex within a few days after.

 

[YOUR BORING LIFE]

This woman does not respect you or is willing to meet you halfway or make a compromise in her schedule to meet your efforts to see her. She is a waste of your time. Walk away. Don't even become one of her orbiters.

 

[foreverAFC]

she doesnt sound interested.

 

[sadonomspa]

You are all right, its just how can the woman go from idolizing me to nothing at all? Its like she's living in the moment and forgetting what we had and what she said.

I wish I could go to med school in St.Lucia. whatever this girl on Saturday is a dime piece I just hope I have the same mentality to get with her. All these chicks are bipolar and crazy. I wish I had an excuse once a month to flip out but then I would just go to prison and can't blame my period.
Just another face in a roomfull of *****s