Guys I think I have oneities to this girl who has a lot of guy frnds in her circle.... I made out with her a couple of times before... Now though we r practically in the same street in different hostels she is not contacting me like she used to n I'm having oneities.... How to cure it n make her chase me?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
She wants new things, you made out before... now she wants something different and has new choices.
Go for another girl in HER hostel, she will become jealous and you score a new girl who isnt shoving the hole hostel carousel cawk in her her mouth
Sadly these hostels r pretty strict n can't talk to any one of them.... She's the only one I know from that hostel..... Is there any other way? Can I jus be silent n not text her n wait for her to ask me out?
MrWood
Master Don Juan
go for a walk, she will see you... if your eyes meet, smile and keep walking.
dont text her
if she wants you... she will text you, get on with your routine until that happens
dont text her
if she wants you... she will text you, get on with your routine until that happens
RickTheToad
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Start f ucking around with another chick who is of equal or higher hotness. Then play the give and take around her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GrowingPains
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By trying to figure out how you can get her to chase you, you're setting yourself up.
You're investing too much energy in this girl she all you've done is kiss.
Stop worrying about her so much. Seek other options because you are in a scarcity mindset. Afraid you'll lose this girl because she's your only potential for sex. She obviously isn't afraid of losing you. Have some self respect. Are you so beneath her that you must prove yourself to raise get interest?
Find other girls, but not with the intention that it will make her jealous. Hit her up after you've done so. You care too much.
You're investing too much energy in this girl she all you've done is kiss.
Stop worrying about her so much. Seek other options because you are in a scarcity mindset. Afraid you'll lose this girl because she's your only potential for sex. She obviously isn't afraid of losing you. Have some self respect. Are you so beneath her that you must prove yourself to raise get interest?
Find other girls, but not with the intention that it will make her jealous. Hit her up after you've done so. You care too much.
Can I dm u? (Is there any option like that?)
Yeah I thought of not texting too... Coz previously when she was free she asked me out n the last time we spoke (yesterday night) she told me that I will be going out to classes with her for the rest of the December so she will have a lot of time to see me but not the other frnds. So I said ok n left... Didn't text her, not gonna text until she texts me first. . .. The problem is last week she asked me to initiate the chat as she was initiating the chat mostly..
GrowingPains
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Sure, you can DM me. Click my profile ans then 'start a conversation's or go to your messages tab, i think.
But it would probably be most useful to say what you want to say here. That way others can answer/disagree, for better or for worse, and you can choose which advice you think is best.
If you DM me you're just going to get my perspective.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
This is the purpose of this very great and open forum
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.