Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Inner for sure. Outer game is like pua stuff. Its almost kind of being fake. But I'm not sure how you personally define the two.El Payaso said:Which one attracts women better?
This. But that doesn't mean if your inner game is not right, stay indoors. Get out anyway, sorting out outer game techniques can help with inner game too.:-) said:Silly question. One has no outer game without inner game. Outer game without inner is just a house of cards just waiting to be blown over.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not true, I've seen tons of guys who hate themselves and otherwise are f*cked up in every sense of the word but have money from their family, flash it around a bit and get laid.:-) said:Silly question. One has no outer game without inner game. Outer game without inner is just a house of cards just waiting to be blown over.
What a dumb thing to write. If they have money they are sorted aren't they? You could even be a criminal but if you don't get caught you are totally OK. These guys certainly fill in the money and possibly the status side of the equation. They are tonnes of people who hate themselves, fuucked up in the head and have self esteem issues but have no problems hooking up. One guy I know who fits this bill is a sex addict he has no problems getting attractive women. The only people with problems getting hold of women is puas.Mr Wright said:Not true, I've seen tons of guys who hate themselves and otherwise are f*cked up in every sense of the word but have money from their family, flash it around a bit and get laid.
How is it stupid? If your family has money how does that make you a well balanced person internally? They have no control over that money.mangotot said:What a dumb thing to write. If they have money they are sorted aren't they? You could even be a criminal but if you don't get caught you are totally OK. These guys certainly fill in the money and possibly the status side of the equation. They are tonnes of people who hate themselves, fuucked up in the head and have self esteem issues but have no problems hooking up. One guy I know who fits this bill is a sex addict he has no problems getting attractive women. The only people with problems getting hold of women is puas.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bein n inner beta helps u with chicks? lolPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Outer for sure