"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Initiating the hookup

overmjind

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hey guys, new to the forums here but glad to join you all. anyways, i was readin over some of the articles and discussions that have been posted, but I have yet to find one about one of the most important things: initiating the hookup with a girl. I'm not talking about makin the girl interested throughout the night; I'm talkin about the actual transition from just chillen with her alone to some make out action.

Now I'm not new at all to the game and have pulled my fair share of girls, but truth be told, I (and the girl) have usually been really drunk and it kinda just "happens." But lets just say its a typical saturday night and you've workin on a girl all night at a party. You hit it off well, you can tell shes really into you, and you eventually end up somewhere relatively quiet, lets say a dorm room. You know she wants you to do something, but alas, what do you do to make that final step?
I'm mainly just lookin for some smooth lines or techniques to get from intimate talking to actually kissing, if that makes any sense. I usually just go straight for the gold and just kiss her once were alone, but lots of times the situation is different (for example you both head to your room and she starts looking at your music collection instead of going straight to mackin). Anyway, I'm sure we could all benefit from a few pointers, so lets hear some!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Andromax

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Well, having her sit next to you on the bed, or cuddle up to you on a couch by patting the seat next to you sets the stage pretty well. If her face is in close proximity to yours all it takes is some 'fvck me eyes' and a little hand to arm / neck action and you are kissing.

This post is great, props to Aliasguy for this one.
great move
 

Zerix

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Wow, I was thinking about the same exact thing earlier today, glad you brought it up. I'd love to hear some advice on this too.
 

young_gun

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Just think, if she comes back to your dorm room or apartment with you, and no one else is around, you're probably doing pretty well.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's really no "line" that's going to put through the transition. Sure, you may end up thinking something witty off the top of your head, but it's not always necessary.

Most of the time if you're already in the position (close to her/sitting next to her), simply looking into her eyes for a few seconds and landing a kiss is the way to get it started. I can't tell you how many guys have such a fear of this and will sit next to a woman who is obviously interested for hours. Just do it! Don't be a ***** about it. The longer you wait, the more awkward things get.
Just think, what's the worst that could happen. She says no? If she says no, she obviously doesn't like you in the first place and you're just wasting your time. good luck
 
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