"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Initial aggression... I just don't think I have it.

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I have been reflecting on my past and I have noticed that I might have lost numerous opportunities because I didn't followed through initial interest. Now don't get me wrong, I never had real attraction for these types of gals (ugs, whales, elder women, even gays *YUCK*, etc) so I never was aggressive and let them eventually get tired of waiting ( some might still be hoping one day I'll actually turn to them). Its just that for some reason the girls I fancy just aren't interested in me *tsk tsk*.

So this is where I need your help...

I'm looking for god dam aggressive women. No I don't mean aggressive as ***** behavior necessary but I mean as they go for what they want. Like a hunter amazonian that wants to corner you and r@pe the bejesus out of your joystick? Am I just going delusional or do these women actually do exist? (if so how snd where the hell to get them?)

I keep waiting and waiting and waiting for someone to eat this cake and nothing... It pisses me off sometimes when I see other girls with other guys and I go to myself.. "wait a minute, I'M MUCH BETTER LOOKING THAN HIM!?!?"

Is there something wrong with this type of behavior? Am I acting like a chick? If so, how to correct it?

I understand girls just don't have balls and are extremely scarred of rejection but my sister actually was the one in pursuing her relationship with her current bf (super embarrassing my younger sis had already had 2 relationships and I'm still waiting to swipe the V on my hand lol).

This is nothing serious but just a thought I had on my mind. Now I'm still improving myself and working out even harder (yes till I look like a ripped model) so hopefully some broad will finally slam herself against me. Oh btw, I did a major change on my wardrobe and I have something golden coming to store soon ;)

What do you all think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Leopold said:
I have been reflecting on my past and I have noticed that I might have lost numerous opportunities because I didn't followed through initial interest. Now don't get me wrong, I never had real attraction for these types of gals (ugs, whales, elder women, even gays *YUCK*, etc) so I never was aggressive and let them eventually get tired of waiting ( some might still be hoping one day I'll actually turn to them). Its just that for some reason the girls I fancy just aren't interested in me *tsk tsk*.

So this is where I need your help...

I'm looking for god dam aggressive women. No I don't mean aggressive as ***** behavior necessary but I mean as they go for what they want. Like a hunter amazonian that wants to corner you and r@pe the bejesus out of your joystick? Am I just going delusional or do these women actually do exist? (if so how snd where the hell to get them?)

I keep waiting and waiting and waiting for someone to eat this cake and nothing... It pisses me off sometimes when I see other girls with other guys and I go to myself.. "wait a minute, I'M MUCH BETTER LOOKING THAN HIM!?!?"

Is there something wrong with this type of behavior? Am I acting like a chick? If so, how to correct it?

I understand girls just don't have balls and are extremely scarred of rejection but my sister actually was the one in pursuing her relationship with her current bf (super embarrassing my younger sis had already had 2 relationships and I'm still waiting to swipe the V on my hand lol).

This is nothing serious but just a thought I had on my mind. Now I'm still improving myself and working out even harder (yes till I look like a ripped model) so hopefully some broad will finally slam herself against me. Oh btw, I did a major change on my wardrobe and I have something golden coming to store soon ;)

What do you all think?
One of my best friends wanted the hunter amazonian type and he turned out to be gay. I'm totally serious :)

Men should be the ones hunting! You need to change your mindset if you know for sure you're not gay.
 

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alpha_ash said:
One of my best friends wanted the hunter amazonian type and he turned out to be gay. I'm totally serious :)

Men should be the ones hunting! You need to change your mindset if you know for sure you're not gay.
FVCK that SlHT MAN!! LOL

I rather cut my ding dong than have a guy sucking on it. YUUCKK!!! I refuse to that!!!

I just don't know, I just like built up chicks if you know what I mean, like Jamie Eason.

If so how or what are the right approaches to change this mindset? I really need help; like if I dont get initial eye contact I go "NO, I'M NOT TAKING A NO." instead of backing off.

My mind is just sinking into a deep abyss like if I was going to fall on the miserable and depressed time I used to live before I discovered this site. I just don't want to sink back in the dark side; I just want to splash on it.
 

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Also, I think I'm becoming self aware of my personality... and thus creating a new form of an introvert. Which I really don't know if its going to backfire at me since I'm not being myself pretty much and I become very self aware.

I used to be very boring, depressed and self aware in the past and that never got me no where. Now I'm becoming the same only difference is that I look a hell more attractive but that doesn't help since girls pretty much don't approach.

I'm... so confused. I think I'm going to plan and seek professional help :/
 

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Leopold said:
Also, I think I'm becoming self aware of my personality... and thus creating a new form of an introvert. Which I really don't know if its going to backfire at me since I'm not being myself pretty much and I become very self aware.

I used to be very boring, depressed and self aware in the past and that never got me no where. Now I'm becoming the same only difference is that I look a hell more attractive but that doesn't help since girls pretty much don't approach.

I'm... so confused. I think I'm going to plan and seek professional help :/
Do the approaching. When you're walking, try to make eye contact with women. If eyes lock, then smile and keep walking.

Build up to actually stopping her and asking a question. Then walk off.

Keep building to actual conversations. Confidence will come with practice.

Then finally, grab a number and just invite her to do something with you later that day.


EDIT: ALSO, hang with your bros! Guys make life easier for each other.

EDIT2:

The friend I mentioned, I think he knew all along he was gay but pretending not to be because he was religious and afraid that we would hate him for it. Several of our friends even said he is gay even though he wouldn't stop talking about *****.

It did sort of come as a surprise to ME because whenever we were hanging out, he was always talking about girls and *****. I remember thinking to myself, relax tiger, you have all the time in the world to snatch as many as you can. lol. Now all he talks about is all the dudes he is dating and you can imagine my reaction, "alright bro relax."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Leopold said:
I'm looking for god dam aggressive women. No I don't mean aggressive as ***** behavior necessary but I mean as they go for what they want. Like a hunter amazonian that wants to corner you and r@pe the bejesus out of your joystick? Am I just going delusional or do these women actually do exist? (if so how and where the hell to get them?)
Every woman who has ever tried to rape me has been fat. :eek:
 
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