"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hair stylist

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Hi

I am a hairstylist and still in hair school, and being the only male in my school, it has given me a great outlet to really get to listen and learn a few little quirks here and there just women tend to only talk about around their friends, and i figure i could share a bit of it on here, and i hope it helps.

The thing i notice the most about the women at my school is EVERY single woman there, and i mean every single, that has a boyfriend does nothing but complain about them. They never have anything good to say about them, its always complaint after complaint, threatening to leave them, saying they "could do better", and just about anything else you can imagine a woman saying. A lot of guys i know would ask "well why would they keep him around?" Well, ive noticed a common theme here....

All of the women who ***** about their boyfriends being ugly, losers etc have one thing in common: In just about every instance, the woman has her man under control, and i think that speaks volumes as to what a lot of women are looking for. They are obviously willing to sacrifice value and stick with people that dissatisfy them because these men will stroke their ego, pay for things and generally bow to their every command so long as a sexual favor is dangled over their head. So when you see the attractive woman with the ugly guy who seems to be a douchebag, keep in mind that hes probably her little slave when they get home, regardless of how much he shows his ass in public.

This also speaks volumes about the women themselves. Now i know of most of their boyfriends or have seen them, and i can agree they tend to be pretty much bums, but i also think it has to be taken into consideration that at least a few of them probably arent bums and are decent guys whos girlfriends STILL come to school and talk **** about them undeservedly, obviously to get attention. That is a sad fact, but when women get in a group, negative things usually arise out of it. To be honest, its rare to hear a positive thing from a group of women. Ive sat in my classes during break hours countless times and overheard some wretched things from these little groups.

Ive veered off of my point though. My point in the whole women sticking with bums because of control issues thing was to prove a point. I know a lot of you are probably pretty attractive people, whether its physically or emotionally or both, but you struggle with dates and you wonder why. A lot of it, especially at younger ages has to do with the woman wanting control. If youre a nice looking guy and have your own free will and ideals, then believe it or not, a decent amount of women tend to shy away from that leaving you to blame yourself and wonder "why why why." It is a shame but i know a lot of attractive guys who cant pull women and they suffer in the self esteem department because of it, but in reality, theres nothing wrong with them, its the controlling women who wouldnt go near someone who has enough self-value to not be controlled, thats not in their best interest.

This is just one of the many things ive noticed, and ill post a lot more. Hope this was helpful, post some replies and tell me if its helped or if you disagree. Thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It would be interesting if the women stay with these guys b/c they can control them. That is the exact OPPOSITE of DJ theory. That says they stay BECAUSE they are AFC.

I really wonder. B/c I know a guy who is fat, AFC, and lazy, and he has a hot, young, smart GF that pays the bills. And this guy is cheap. And he has no skills. But the girl is bossy. It makes me think she's with him only b/c she can own him.

Anyway, you are making a good career here as a spy, HS. Now your next mission, should you choose to accept it, is to plant a bug in the clothes of one of your coworkers, and find out what happens for real back at the ranch. Then we can analyze the transcript and find out if these guys are AFC or DJ.

Sure, it is risky, and maybe illegal. But life is dangerous, and the future of man may be at stake!
 

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thedeparted said:
It would be interesting if the women stay with these guys b/c they can control them. That is the exact OPPOSITE of DJ theory. That says they stay BECAUSE they are AFC.

I really wonder. B/c I know a guy who is fat, AFC, and lazy, and he has a hot, young, smart GF that pays the bills. And this guy is cheap. And he has no skills. But the girl is bossy. It makes me think she's with him only b/c she can own him.

Anyway, you are making a good career here as a spy, HS. Now your next mission, should you choose to accept it, is to plant a bug in the clothes of one of your coworkers, and find out what happens for real back at the ranch. Then we can analyze the transcript and find out if these guys are AFC or DJ.

Sure, it is risky, and maybe illegal. But life is dangerous, and the future of man may be at stake!
I dont know about the bugs, i think youll just have to take my work for it;)

And yes your friend is a classic example of what i am talking about. Some women need to have someone under their power, and an attractive, independent man sometimes will get the backburner because his self esteem is sufficient as to where he wont be put under a spell.
 

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thedeparted said:
It would be interesting if the women stay with these guys b/c they can control them. That is the exact OPPOSITE of DJ theory. That says they stay BECAUSE they are AFC
being the guy who can't assert himself and being a needy AFC is the same thing

anyway, these are women in unhappy LTR's, not typical single women most guys are out to game. these are also the same women who are likely to creep around because of unfulfillment. also gotta point the guys they're complaining about had to have done something right at the beginning to end up with them, even though the relationship turned to sht
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Most women cant handle a real man. They want a pirate, but they can't handle the dangerous exciting lifestyle. It doesn't fit with their, "I have to have kids and a supportive husband" cliche BS agenda.

Women's whole effort is to turn the pirate into a dribbling AFC so she can have a secure provider. But of course she get's bored and disgusted with the once warrior turned "yes man." So she fvcks his friends who are still pirates.

Bottom line, real pirates don't get sucked into LTR's. It's a slippery slope to AFC city.
 
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