"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Information for the DJ Chatroom

Nicholas Hill

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The chat room is always up and most of the time it is hosted by one or more ops - just to keep the peace and provide a presence. I'm actually pretty glad that so many of you have "parked" yourselves there.

Most of the time you can get in and expect to speak to someone. The best times are those around 00:00 GMT - when all the Americans are not sleeping or working, I guess.

Here's the information you need

Server: polaris.starchat.net
Channel: #donjuan

You can do one of two things. The best thing to do is to download an IRC client (you can get one at www.mirc.co.uk) and type the following commands when you have started it up and configured basic settings:

/server polaris.starchat.net
(wait until you've connected)
/join #donjuan

The second thing you can do is to use the web interface. Just go to www.starchat.net and the rest should be simple. The /join command above should work for the web interface too.

Please note that while the chat room is always available, there will at times be proper "hosted events". The last event was Wednesday 3rd September 2003 and the channel was maxed out with 21 people at once at one point. The log is available here:

http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/djchat1.htm

There will be another hosted event soon. Keep an eye out for such information.

Nick
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal

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I'm sticking this to inform people about the chat. I'll take it down in about 10 days, so you all better remember!! :D
 

Dee-Zy

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<----- still waiting for mod spot
 

Nicholas Hill

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Hosted Don Juan chat this THURSDAY!

Hosted event Thursday 18th September
The second such event

Server polaris.starchat.net, channel #donjuan
Instructions for connecting to IRC servers is included in the thread that is currently a sticky here in Discussion Forum.

15:30 Pacific, or
18:30 Eastern, or
19:30 Atlantic, or
23:30 GMT (UK), or
01:30 Jerusalem (following day)

Check times on your cool windows clock and compare to GMT if you can't figure out the time from the list above.

Hosts: Nicholas Hill, and hopefully HotIce

I will encourage someone else to host a possible third event in the future.

Topics as follows:

Maintaining a consistent, high confidence level.
Kinesthetics - Touching the girls.
Our looks or our personality?
Q&A session at the end

Chat will take less than two hours.

Nick
 

Eternal

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Nich, post this in the stickied post...I'm merging this atleast...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NYC Dude

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This chatroom is still up, just to let everyone know.
 

Dee-Zy

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bump
 

Da-OnlyX

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Aite

Thnx for the tip.

Anyone knows when the next chat will take place?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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GropeDope

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I want to try this chat thing. Does anyone still go there?
 
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