****iness, Arrogance, Seriousness

[Jakeg123]

Last night I was told that although I don't mean to, at some points I can be ****y and even arrogant. Now of course I didnt realize this but considering it was a friend I took it to heart and am trying to work on changing it. How can you prevent this, or how can I change it. My close friends know I'm neither of those things and I am a joking person, not necessarily serious. He said I need to smile more and lighten up. I have a hard time having fun lately, and just being myself. I think in trying to grow to Alpha I have lost track. I'd really appreciate some solid answers.

Thanks-
jake

 

[Strelok]

Its hard to give you a proper suggestion given this few details, you can help explaining in a more detailed way.

 

[Jakeg123]

Sometimes I'm not comfortable in certain situations, even though I know that people love the real me. I'm a fun person but lately have a hard time being comfortable enough to show it. My confidence is down considering I broke up with a girl of over a year and haven't had time to go to the gym with courses and pledge for a fraternity. It was my pledge brothers that said I can be arrogant and ****y, they're looking out for me. Sometimes I get compliments about my looks, and I'd like to think I'm humble but maybe they subconciously go to my head. I don't think I'm ****y, and I think that my tendency for being shy or serious lately is making it seem arrogant/****y. I know that humbling myself is a start, but I'm more worried about being my fun self again honestly.