"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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****iness, Arrogance, Seriousness

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Jakeg123

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Last night I was told that although I don't mean to, at some points I can be ****y and even arrogant. Now of course I didnt realize this but considering it was a friend I took it to heart and am trying to work on changing it. How can you prevent this, or how can I change it. My close friends know I'm neither of those things and I am a joking person, not necessarily serious. He said I need to smile more and lighten up. I have a hard time having fun lately, and just being myself. I think in trying to grow to Alpha I have lost track. I'd really appreciate some solid answers.

Thanks-
jake
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its hard to give you a proper suggestion given this few details, you can help explaining in a more detailed way.
 
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Jakeg123

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Sometimes I'm not comfortable in certain situations, even though I know that people love the real me. I'm a fun person but lately have a hard time being comfortable enough to show it. My confidence is down considering I broke up with a girl of over a year and haven't had time to go to the gym with courses and pledge for a fraternity. It was my pledge brothers that said I can be arrogant and ****y, they're looking out for me. Sometimes I get compliments about my looks, and I'd like to think I'm humble but maybe they subconciously go to my head. I don't think I'm ****y, and I think that my tendency for being shy or serious lately is making it seem arrogant/****y. I know that humbling myself is a start, but I'm more worried about being my fun self again honestly.
 
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