"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Indian women

SeymourCake

Banned
Joined
Apr 9, 2010
Messages
1,523
Reaction score
363
Okay, so I'm Indian myself and basically I grew up hanging around with black people so whatever they were into; I was into. I grew up liking black and latina/hispanic women. Note, I've never had experience with Indian women seeing how I grew up in America, and I'm basically Americanized.

So I'm chillin' in the library browsing through this forum and I came across the aura thread
(http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155932)

After skimming through the whole thread, I get a glimpse of how to get the aura everyone was talking about. So I immediately close my laptop, place it in the bag and started to put it to use.

The first girl I see is sitting by herself, on the phone, and writing a letter. She had her head down as if she was tired and I approach her with an opening saying, "So you're tired, huh?" She responded "yeah, haha". "Long night last night?" I said....and so on....

She showed some IOI (example: playing with her hair, smiling, engage eye contact, even asked for my name and etc...)

She asked what church I went to, and I was completely honest and I said I don't go to church.

So after 5 minutes (note: the conversation is still going on) she was on the phone ready to leave (I guess she was supposed to meet up with someone) and I went for the number close. She replied, "I don't give numbers out". WTF? Seriously? So I smile and walk the opposite way. By the way, this girl was born and raised in America as well...But I can tell she was somewhat influenced by her household peers).

Did she not give me her number because I told her I didn't go to church? What do you guys think? Anyone here have experience with Indian women? Maybe she would have gave me her number if I was white. I've heard stories that Indian/Asian (orientals) women love white men.

I still feel kind of bad that I got rejected by my own people. Oh well...Her lost.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Eh. Yes, I do get the impression that asian cultures are more subdued, but I wouldn't bother analyzing this girl so much.

You did everything right. You approached, held a convo, and number closed. Just leave it at that. I wouldn't blame it on you not being white. The girl is either lame, shy, or just not into you. With your confidence to approach, you'll get plenty more shots.
 
A

Aazman

Guest
Right- i'm apt at asian culture.


Was she christian indian? Generally you have to realise, as i'm sure you probably know:

indian girls are protected.

And christian indian parents are mad about making sure they keep their religion.
Hence those that are religious- you will find them; However you will also find some that are more liberal. to be honest, the asian girls where i live:

are known as the Filthiest girls in the city. That is an UNDERSTATMENT! haha


Where abouts in india are you from?
 

SeymourCake

Banned
Joined
Apr 9, 2010
Messages
1,523
Reaction score
363
Aazman said:
Right- i'm apt at asian culture.


Was she christian indian? Generally you have to realise, as i'm sure you probably know:

indian girls are protected.

And christian indian parents are mad about making sure they keep their religion.
Hence those that are religious- you will find them; However you will also find some that are more liberal. to be honest, the asian girls where i live:

are known as the Filthiest girls in the city. That is an UNDERSTATMENT! haha


Where abouts in india are you from?

Yeah she definitely Christian seeing how she told me she went to a St. Thomas Orthodox church. I'm from America, but if you're asking where my family is from...They're from Kerala.
 

Kirro

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2010
Messages
368
Reaction score
16
Location
NY
I'm a black guy from the Caribbean living in NYC. Both places have tons of indian chicks. I usually see indian chicks with guys of their own race(i.e you), black guys or even latinos, I have barely seen an indian/white couple.

My point is that as someone said, she is either lame, shy or not into you. Religion may play a part as well. However once you have your sh!t together & are decent looking & have decent skills no matter race you are, you'll attract all kinds of races.

You get props for the library approach OP. Keep it up you'll be set.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

A

Aazman

Guest
I've heard that indian girls are pretty shallow. Been with one, and she was pretty much just that.

i'm from the uk, but what are indian girls like in the usa?
 

Kirro

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2010
Messages
368
Reaction score
16
Location
NY
Depends. If they are straight from india meaning the recently migrated they are more sheltered, religious & somewhat anti-social. If they're from the caribbean or born here in the US then they are pretty much your average western female.

Upbringing & life experiences make the female, not race.
 
Top