"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Increase Social Proof By Having a Favorite Hangout

lYlasTer

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I’ve explained before the power of social proof, how it can increase your attractiveness with women. If you’re not familiar with social proof, it basically means the more popular you appear to be the more attractive you are. One easy way I’ve found to do this is to go to the same places over and over so that you’re familiar to the people there.

For instance there’s plenty of clubs I can go to in my city on a Saturday night. However me and my friends have been going to the same one for about two years. I’ve always made it a point to be friendly to everyone that works there and I’ve gotten to know plenty of the regulars that have gone there. So when I take a new girl to the club, my social proof is through the roof.

The bouncer lets me cut the lines, The cashier lets me in for free and I don’t have to show ID, I’m saying high to hot girls, and my favorite bartender gives me extra shots when I order. I’m being treated like a VIP because I go to the same place and go the extra mile to make myself known.
You can do this by having a favorite bar, restaurant, pretty much anywhere. But the point is by focusing on hanging out with one then you can develop a bond with a place. It’s hard to build social proof with places if you’re going to a new spot every week. Think of it as developing a friendship, it takes time and effort on your part. But if you do it, then it can pay off big time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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kdnash82

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I too live by these rules. If I go out on a Friday night, it's usually to the same club. It's gotten to the point where I get those same things. No waiting in lines, no cover charge, free drinks. I'm always dressed very nicely (suits) and tend to stand out.

Whenever I go to the bar, I never wait on a drink. The bartender will usually look over everyone and say "What are you drinking kdnash?" It actually pretty funny sometimes, because the people up front usually have to pass my drink back to me. If it's the beginning of the night and I've just gotten there, they will shake my hand and ask me what I've been up to. One guy actually made people wait until he finished his conversation with me.

I always run a tab and never carry cash. At the end of the night I always take care of them. If under 100, I always tip 20, if over 100, I tip 40.

This has gotten me VIP for myself and 5 other friends at one time. And the girls are always coming up to me thinking I own the place
 

Poonani Maker

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Yeah, I've had waitresses suspect I'm there AGAIN because I'm attracted to HER, which could not be further from the truth. I'm there mostly for the music, then the girls, then the drinkin, then the TV. I'm going out tonight matter of fact to the place I always go to, but I could change that plan on a dime if my instincts tell me to and go to another. I could go to the place where most of the sluts are but have a greater probability of getting into a fight OR I could go to the place where most of the sophistos go to and mix and mingle there (the clean place I usually prefer), or I could go to the dance club where most of the young college gals go, or I could go to the bar where you see most of the insecure girls night out types go and cling/stick together. I have no idea where I'm going tonight. I never give anything without expecting something in return, I always get laid, I mean paid.
 

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Alcoholics and bums are probably well-known there too. Why should she assume you're just a cool guy with a lot of friends instead of what I just mentioned?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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