"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Increase Social Proof By Having a Favorite Hangout

lYlasTer

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I’ve explained before the power of social proof, how it can increase your attractiveness with women. If you’re not familiar with social proof, it basically means the more popular you appear to be the more attractive you are. One easy way I’ve found to do this is to go to the same places over and over so that you’re familiar to the people there.

For instance there’s plenty of clubs I can go to in my city on a Saturday night. However me and my friends have been going to the same one for about two years. I’ve always made it a point to be friendly to everyone that works there and I’ve gotten to know plenty of the regulars that have gone there. So when I take a new girl to the club, my social proof is through the roof.

The bouncer lets me cut the lines, The cashier lets me in for free and I don’t have to show ID, I’m saying high to hot girls, and my favorite bartender gives me extra shots when I order. I’m being treated like a VIP because I go to the same place and go the extra mile to make myself known.
You can do this by having a favorite bar, restaurant, pretty much anywhere. But the point is by focusing on hanging out with one then you can develop a bond with a place. It’s hard to build social proof with places if you’re going to a new spot every week. Think of it as developing a friendship, it takes time and effort on your part. But if you do it, then it can pay off big time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kdnash82

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I too live by these rules. If I go out on a Friday night, it's usually to the same club. It's gotten to the point where I get those same things. No waiting in lines, no cover charge, free drinks. I'm always dressed very nicely (suits) and tend to stand out.

Whenever I go to the bar, I never wait on a drink. The bartender will usually look over everyone and say "What are you drinking kdnash?" It actually pretty funny sometimes, because the people up front usually have to pass my drink back to me. If it's the beginning of the night and I've just gotten there, they will shake my hand and ask me what I've been up to. One guy actually made people wait until he finished his conversation with me.

I always run a tab and never carry cash. At the end of the night I always take care of them. If under 100, I always tip 20, if over 100, I tip 40.

This has gotten me VIP for myself and 5 other friends at one time. And the girls are always coming up to me thinking I own the place
 

Poonani Maker

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Yeah, I've had waitresses suspect I'm there AGAIN because I'm attracted to HER, which could not be further from the truth. I'm there mostly for the music, then the girls, then the drinkin, then the TV. I'm going out tonight matter of fact to the place I always go to, but I could change that plan on a dime if my instincts tell me to and go to another. I could go to the place where most of the sluts are but have a greater probability of getting into a fight OR I could go to the place where most of the sophistos go to and mix and mingle there (the clean place I usually prefer), or I could go to the dance club where most of the young college gals go, or I could go to the bar where you see most of the insecure girls night out types go and cling/stick together. I have no idea where I'm going tonight. I never give anything without expecting something in return, I always get laid, I mean paid.
 

azanon

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Alcoholics and bums are probably well-known there too. Why should she assume you're just a cool guy with a lot of friends instead of what I just mentioned?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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