"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Increase earnings by a factor of 10 - gain two points in attractiveness

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Two points is a huge jump, IMO.
 

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Two points is a huge jump, IMO.
It is significant, yes, but it's one part of a complex system. I think in general on these forums it's valued far too much and used as an excuse not to self-improve.
 

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It is significant, yes, but it's one part of a complex system. I think in general on these forums it's valued far too much and used as an excuse not to self-improve.
Oh well, probably. I was talking more about the two points on the SMV scale than about money. If you can go up two points on the SMV scale, that's huge IMO. As you say, two points for some money is probably overvaluing it.

If you can increase your earnings potential though, I would call that self improving, unless you absolutely hate what you're doing. I've always seen earning more money as being more beneficial to yourself than about attracting women. I respect people who choose to live an ascetic lifestyle, but money is an extremely versatile tool that can be very, very useful.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you can increase your earnings potential though, I would call that self improving, unless you absolutely hate what you're doing. I've always seen earning more money as being more beneficial to yourself than about attracting women. I respect people who choose to live an ascetic lifestyle, but money is an extremely versatile tool that can be very, very useful.
Oh, absolutely. Anyone who claims they don't want more money is lying. The philanthropists who have the most impact have the most money, so even if you want to help people money is still the goal! Money lets you buy nice clothes, a nice car, a home. All these things increase your attraction immensely. But I'm looking at it from the other angle. Yes, it increases your value, but if you have no value to start with, money doesn't help. That's what the rich guys on this forum don't get. I look good, I have money, girls should fall in my lap! You still need to be a good man for the money to improve your SMV (with gold diggers being the exception). Money is a spice and if you're flavoring a turd, the customer is gonna be unimpressed.
 

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Yes, it increases your value, but if you have no value to start with, money doesn't help. That's what the rich guys on this forum don't get. I look good, I have money, girls should fall in my lap! You still need to be a good man for the money to improve your SMV
Guys here used to (many still do) push the idea that being an @sshole was enough to get you women, so some might disagree that you have to be a good man. Also, I would say practically everybody has some sort of value.
 

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Guys here used to (many still do) push the idea that being an @sshole was enough to get you women, so some might disagree that you have to be a good man. Also, I would say practically everybody has some sort of value.
I say good as an all round red pill man. You do need to be a bit of an ******* because you can't have a strong frame without upsetting people. But being firm about reasonable expectations and morality is fine. If you take that concept to the extreme you're just an *******. It's not something people should be proud of or aspire to be. It's the benevolent king vs the tyrant. Use your power for good.

It's all shades of grey, I did a post about how black and white thinking is likely to cause significant problems but it wasn't particularly popular.
 

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You don't need to be an @sshole. You just can't be a push-over. If you do not have enough self-respect that you will not stand up for yourself, then why should any chick? No respect = No love.
 

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Two points is a huge jump, IMO.
Agreed. Two points is a HUGE jump.

Guys looks by number:

5 - Not on map

6 - Single moms and mail order brides like you

7 - Single moms with no kids like you lol

8 - Chad

9 - Super Chad platinum lithium ion

But to get that two point boost, you have to increase your income by a factor of TEN.

A 75k guy has to somehow get himself up to 750k?

A 100k guy has to clear 1M per year.

That’s a bit ambitious.

Maybe it’s more cost effective to work out and gain one point?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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