"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A girl I'm really interested in is acting strange. When we first met she gave me every possible sign of interest, without exception, especially when she was drunk ie. screaming with excitement when she saw me. Then after about 2 months of occasionally seeing each other, her behaviour changes dramatically. No longer does she talk to me, when I'm around she looks at the floor and fidgets with her clothes and hair etc., the other day we were at a party, she went bright red and I caught her looking at me then looking away. What does this mean?? does she likes me more or is she trying to put me off? If she's just shy, wouldn't it have been this way from the beginning?

Before you flame me for hesitating, know that there is far more at stake here than just rejection.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hmm, she's a shy girl but it's pretty obvious she likes you. In fact, once i had an exact same situation about a year ago.

I would bet money that your a pretty shy guy, just like how i used to be. And before, she used to open you up all the time and flirt/try to get you to notice her. But now that she's kinda made her intentions known, she's backing off and now its your turn to open her up/make a move/get a date.

Don't make it seem so dramatic, im sure that it's not like life or death if she rejects you...:rolleyes:
 
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I take it you're a fellow Bolan fan ;)

Then after about 2 months of occasionally seeing each other, her behaviour changes dramatically.
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If you've been trying to go out with her for two months, but never actually making a move, you took too long. You should have struck when her IL was high two months ago. Now, she has lost interest in you and has possibly moved onto other options.

ALWAYS assume attraction unless proven otherwise. Next time you meet a woman and she's showing even A LITTLE BIT of interest in you, get her number and set up a date. If you do this, your success rate will go up.
 
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