Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Incident last summer

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Ive been thinking about something last summer. I was standing around in the city and this couple appears to my left, walking hand in hand, but theyre across the street. Im just standing still and looking ahead to the horizon, then when they reach my frontal vision the woman turns, looks at me and smiles.

I just took my eyes away and kept looking ahead. But my question is, what should i have done? what would you have done? should i just have crossed the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ive been thinking about something last summer. I was standing around in the city and this couple appears to my left, walking hand in hand, but theyre across the street. Im just standing still and looking ahead to the horizon, then when they reach my frontal vision the woman turns, looks at me and smiles.

I just looked took my eyes away and kept looking ahead. But my question is, what should i have done? what would you have done? should i just have cross the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
You should have zipped up your pants.
 

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xD are you trying to recruit me to the incel circle?
It seems to be that IOI is at least the only one you remember enough to make a thread. You even call it an "incident". You can't make that up.

No incident happened, the woman was taken.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She wants to have the thrill of men fighting over her, yes, you probably could of gamed the situation at the expense of this guys self esteem, but she isn't a keeper, she'll eventually do the same thing to you, also, who needs some butthurt ex boyfriend or her friend trying to get even with you, losers got the time of day to fvck with your sh1t while you are on your purpose.

Anyone that needs puss this bad is too desperate to be gaming, so you did right
 

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She could be doing that to everyone like a tease.
 

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Think she went nuts a bit after being smash hard by her bf last night. She knocked her head in the heat of secks. Hence the incident.
 

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should i just have crossed the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
Knives have landed between ribs over stuff like that.

So what do you think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Had a girl do this to me in a bar last year.

She came in, instant eye contact..eyes lit up. Her bf was ahead of her not paying attention.

She squeezed by me facing looking me dead in the eyes with a "come f me" look.

Happened a few times. I enjoyed out flirty looks but she has a bf and I am not starting drama in a bar that is not my local. Bet she would be a great date for a night but not gf material at all
 

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I just took my eyes away and kept looking ahead. But my question is, what should i have done? what would you have done? should i just have crossed the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
People smile at people in public. It doesn't mean crap.
If you approached, the BF could, and justifiably, laid you out on the pavement, or they could have reported you to the police.
 

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Something isn't right with this question lol, like isn't it obvious that you can't?
That's right Sherlock, the question is not entirely naive. Of course i thought i shouldnt do it, hence why i didnt. But i also second guessed my choice since for all i know, this is just "how the game works" when they add new guys to their rotation. I dont know. Hence, why i wanted to see what you guys thought. I wanted some reassurance that i wasnt crazy and just ignoring her was a good choice, but was open to hearing other ideas too.
 

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But i also second guessed my choice since for all i know, this is just "how the game works" when they add new guys to their rotation.
There is no game. There was nothing there. Zero. Nothing. People walk down the street,...they catch each other's glance, they nod, they smile,...they keep walking. Nobody is saying "Come bang me,...I don't want to be with the one I'm already walking with",...just because they caught your glance and smiled.
 

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Sounds like it was a prime opportunity to wheel out the hannibal lector tongue flick.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ive been thinking about something last summer. I was standing around in the city and this couple appears to my left, walking hand in hand, but theyre across the street. Im just standing still and looking ahead to the horizon, then when they reach my frontal vision the woman turns, looks at me and smiles.

I just took my eyes away and kept looking ahead. But my question is, what should i have done? what would you have done? should i just have crossed the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
You did exactly what you should have done. Nothing and carried on with your day.
 

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I just took my eyes away and kept looking ahead. But my question is, what should i have done? what would you have done? should i just have crossed the street, walked up there while she is walking hand in hand with her boyfriend, and started hitting on her? or was my decision to let it go right? What do you think?
There may have been some "hitting on" had you done this,but,likely the type that winds up with your bony ass on the tarmac
 

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In any case how on earth can you hit upon a lass who is literally holding hands with her boyfriend ? How it that ever gonna work out in your favour ?Its suicidal in all areas
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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