"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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in retrospect about falling in love w/ a chick

john_1234

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thinking about past relationships, i realized i was truly in love two times. both these girls were very attractive. however, w/out getting too deep into it, their personalities weren't the best. i've dated girls who weren't beautiful, I rate them a 7 at most. but a few of these 7's had fun/spunky personalities. my feelings for them never grew to "love" but probably infatuation at most. I think like, "damn, if only soandso had soandso's personality.." then that's a girl i'd consider for the long haul.
this may be shallow, but my feelings for a girl could only grow to true love only if i find her really attractive. for a girl who's average, cute, etc., my feelings will NEVER reach the point of love regardless of how great her personality maybe. do most guys relate to this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i do...girl has to at least be cute in order for me to even consider her as a potential girlfriend or more. Simple as that.
 

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specialed said:
i do...girl has to at least be cute in order for me to even consider her as a potential girlfriend or more. Simple as that.
Same here,but here is the catch. If they are at least cute,that's an automatic pass to a shot at me if they tried. If they have a good personality their looks automatically sky rocket with their personality in my book.
 

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So basically you're asking if I'd date an ugly girl?

No, I would not date an ugly girl. I would be friends with one, but it would go no further.

I think you may be seeing infatuation as love. I could be wrong though. Just my impressions.
 

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lesser girls ARE deeper and have more complexity in their personal makeup and don't have the complexes of hot chicks.

this is why the best of all worlds are chicks who were not always hot. who've known both worlds.

this is probably the best balanced of chicks.

"hit weight watchers! hot girls for fat chick prices!" says fez.... :)

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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