"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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in retrospect about falling in love w/ a chick

john_1234

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thinking about past relationships, i realized i was truly in love two times. both these girls were very attractive. however, w/out getting too deep into it, their personalities weren't the best. i've dated girls who weren't beautiful, I rate them a 7 at most. but a few of these 7's had fun/spunky personalities. my feelings for them never grew to "love" but probably infatuation at most. I think like, "damn, if only soandso had soandso's personality.." then that's a girl i'd consider for the long haul.
this may be shallow, but my feelings for a girl could only grow to true love only if i find her really attractive. for a girl who's average, cute, etc., my feelings will NEVER reach the point of love regardless of how great her personality maybe. do most guys relate to this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i do...girl has to at least be cute in order for me to even consider her as a potential girlfriend or more. Simple as that.
 

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specialed said:
i do...girl has to at least be cute in order for me to even consider her as a potential girlfriend or more. Simple as that.
Same here,but here is the catch. If they are at least cute,that's an automatic pass to a shot at me if they tried. If they have a good personality their looks automatically sky rocket with their personality in my book.
 

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So basically you're asking if I'd date an ugly girl?

No, I would not date an ugly girl. I would be friends with one, but it would go no further.

I think you may be seeing infatuation as love. I could be wrong though. Just my impressions.
 

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lesser girls ARE deeper and have more complexity in their personal makeup and don't have the complexes of hot chicks.

this is why the best of all worlds are chicks who were not always hot. who've known both worlds.

this is probably the best balanced of chicks.

"hit weight watchers! hot girls for fat chick prices!" says fez.... :)

delta
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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