"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In person shes all into me....but?

Patrick124

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This new chick came to my school like.. a month ago? Shes def a HB 8, n shes in my art class. so what do i dot he first day shes ehre? sit down and introduce myself.
Class 2[we have block scheduling, so I see her every other day] I teach her the ropes of Adobe Photoshop, and we exchange #s. I initiate mild kino.
First weekend shes here, I was *supposed* to call her to chill. Yeah, i forgot. She told people "If he had called me, I would have cancelled my plans with another guy to go with him." thats a blower. I felt like an idiot lol.:(
The next week I called, no answer. she called me up that friday n we metup at WENDYS with my boy n her busted-a$$ friend. My byo and I had a concert to get too, and no place to chill before the concert without parents..so we parted after eating.

I've called her a few times since to chill. she either doesn't answer her phone, or her parents are making her babysit her brothers, or shes busy[swim practice in the morning, softball in the afternoon.]

see what fustrates me is that this girl CLINGS to me in class. Maybe because Ive taught her step by step EVERYTHING in the class, and sometimes I end up doing parts of her projects for her[using me?]. But thats nto how shes clingy. When she needed my attention last class[these r the onyl examples I remember] she grabs my thigh and goes "look at the new guy[hes a gay guy]." She walks up behind me while i'm into my own work and presses her inner-thighs/cvnt-are into my shoulder. i kino her bakc of course. This girl told me last calss "i love your shirts. u dress so nice."

wtf?:down:
anyone? I called her tonight n said "hey u trying to go out tonight? watch the OC with some people?" she said her parents would never let her out. n tomorrow night shes busy. she ahsn't called me since wendys to chill. yet this girl acts like she loves me in class.
thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Honestly, I'd move on to a lesser hassle, but on any point: Give her the ball. Tell her that you want to do something sometime and ask her to give you multiple times that she's free. Pick one of them, and you're set. If she can't give you a time, then you know what's up. And yes, it is possible that she is using you, so be weary.
 

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Originally posted by Criminal Mind
Ask her if she wants to kiss you when you sit her down one on one

Don't take advice from this guy. He's just KBDJ ing the whole thing and he is basing his knowledge on 'The Game'.
 

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Ok look, this is what I see:

#1: She genuinely likes you but she wants you to make the first move.

#2: She's using you to help with her photoshop homework. The excuses sound contrived. If she really liked you, she would've 'attempted'... that said, how did she sound on the phone?

#3: Quite possibly she's using you to make herself feel better.

Interpret it however you will.

That said, I'm new to this forum so unless there's theories which I'm yet not aware of, take it with a grain of salt.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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