last 2 yrs,i met this girl,she was in the same secondary school as me.. cause im more of a laid back type of guy,i prefer girls to come for me,and she eventually did,she used to like me but as i was having a gf at that point of time,she stop pursuing.. then after i broke up,i started to spent more time with her,its just some natural thing,chatting in msn and sms.. then soon,we started liking each other,but i dont know if she loved me.. so i started pursuing her,we had our times,it was uber great,the whole experience is just different for me cause everything seems so natural.. easier said,she somehow changed me.. but we didnt really get into the bf/gf relationship,we're stuck at the friends part.. so one day,she started having doubts about us,and everything started to change.. and worst of all,she told me she just want to be friends with me.. so i started to be a wuss and ask her all those stupid q about us being together again and all that only to realise she will ignore me.. so after reading some of the newsletter i decided to heck her,gave her late replies in msn.. but the prob is she like some guy.. how do i go about this.? i read somewhere that once a girl attraction for u is gone,its as good as gone,no point going after it again,but with her,i just the whole experience is amazing,she change me for good and a great motivator when im down.. what should i do now? pls help me..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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- Thread starter loco ass
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
pretend you never met her. She didnt change you. Its all in your head. The only person that can change YOU is YOU. No doubt people can have an affect on us. How old are u anyways?
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
I didnt say theres no chance, but theres no chance right NOW. Maybe, and i do stress the maybe, at some other point. If shes got another dude then youre out for now. Let her see you have your own life and being with other hos. youre only 18 and have alot to learn about women. Its ok it just takes a little time.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
You mean you dont have any interest in other girls?
loco ass said:last 2 yrs,i met this girl,she was in the same secondary school as me..
Wow you went to school? Did they teach you to use paragraphs or punctuation?
Fred Da Head
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Didn't you read that new law? It's illegal to teach kids to write legibly. You can only teach them 1337$p33k and msnspeek. At least, that law must have passed; it seems nobody can write like an intelligent human being anymore. Hell, I speak/write better English than pretty much all of those kids, and it's my second language.Skel said:Wow you went to school? Did they teach you to use paragraphs or punctuation?
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
An this is why people get friend zoned, they don't show there intent. I can tell already from how you said your laid-back and want girls to come to you.
Girl's aren't just going to jump on your dik. You have to lead and escalate everything. An you didn't do that. Did you kiss this girl? Did you fuk her? If you didn't then you know where you're problem is at.
Like the other poster said she didn't really change you, it was all in your head.
Girl's aren't just going to jump on your dik. You have to lead and escalate everything. An you didn't do that. Did you kiss this girl? Did you fuk her? If you didn't then you know where you're problem is at.
Like the other poster said she didn't really change you, it was all in your head.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.