"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Amw406

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So I found a pair of ray-ban sun glasses while waiting for my anatomy class. I think they made me look like a cop but decided to take them anyway. good thing to. I'm sitting there minding my own business and an HB9 sits down next to me. I turn to her and say

Me: I just found these sunglasses. I think they make me look even sexier. What do you think?
Hb9: well if you think they look good that's all that matters.
Me: true but I'm also 100% confident that if I were to wear jorts everyone would look at my butt all day.
hb9: (she laughs and looks at my pants)
Me: hey, my eyes are up here.
hb9: (laughs and apologizes)
Me: anyway... I need an unbiased opinion on them.
Hb9: I think you have really nice eyes. I wouldn't cover them.
Me: finally, an honest opinion. High five!

She couldn't stop touching my arm all class and wanted to talk all through the lecture and had this big goofy smile on her face the whole time. She even wanted to hang out after class but I had work. so she actually asked for my phone number.

I may have to try this bit again. What do you guys think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PokerStar

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yeah sure. good opening. but. what might work for one may not work on another.

keep the attitude but your openings could vary.
 

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It worked because it was spontaneous and not contrived. You were flowing.

Don't ask how to manufacture a similar situation; ask how to flow more.
 

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LOL, I like it, that was pretty good,, loved the "hey, my eyes are up here" classic.. keep up the good work, it's stuff like this that they eat up, just keep the confidence up
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rubato said:
I'm definitely stealing that tomorrow.... pure gold!
ok thats exactly what everyone is saying NOT to do.


its not the words that made this interaction a success. its the natural flow.
 
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garruk said:
ok thats exactly what everyone is saying NOT to do.


its not the words that made this interaction a success. its the natural flow.
All right, I'll follow Vice's suggestion. How do you flow more

(I do think though that this would work in multiple situations if the man had the right frame)
 

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I might start carrying sunglasses for this purpose haha.
 
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