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Those are not accurate at all, in Russia men outnumber women
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Those are not accurate at all, in Russia men outnumber women
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DING DING DING this is something I learned right away being on this site within my first year (2009) if you have a social circle where the average guy makes 6 to 7 figures and in a great location (penthouse, condo in the best part of the city) women will be there left and right. Social circle is so underrated and a lot of guys are missing out on that. Even if you're an older guy a great social circle can funnel women for you if you play it rightPart of the problem is that men have worse social skills than women on average. Men with worse social skills typically tend to seek women on the swipe apps (and from 2000-2012, dating websites) because they don't have a social circle capable of producing dates and don't have the guts to cold approach in non-bar venues (where better ratios in person exist). The websites/swipe apps have even worse ratios than the metro areas at large. So men tend to think that everything is a sausage fest. While ratios as a whole are getting worse, the ratios on swipe apps skew one's perspective even more negatively.