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- Aug 29, 2021
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- 30
Those are not accurate at all, in Russia men outnumber women
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Those are not accurate at all, in Russia men outnumber women
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DING DING DING this is something I learned right away being on this site within my first year (2009) if you have a social circle where the average guy makes 6 to 7 figures and in a great location (penthouse, condo in the best part of the city) women will be there left and right. Social circle is so underrated and a lot of guys are missing out on that. Even if you're an older guy a great social circle can funnel women for you if you play it rightPart of the problem is that men have worse social skills than women on average. Men with worse social skills typically tend to seek women on the swipe apps (and from 2000-2012, dating websites) because they don't have a social circle capable of producing dates and don't have the guts to cold approach in non-bar venues (where better ratios in person exist). The websites/swipe apps have even worse ratios than the metro areas at large. So men tend to think that everything is a sausage fest. While ratios as a whole are getting worse, the ratios on swipe apps skew one's perspective even more negatively.