"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm in a really good spot right now with this girl who I've been eyeing since the beginning of the semester not really taking much of a opportunity to get to know her or talk to her.
I walk to class and say hi to her and exchange some small talk about classwork. After class we get into another conversation on the way out the door and out of the building where we get eachothers names and start talking some more.

Here is the strange and good part. As a class are planning group study sessions, so in order to get in touch she tells me she'll text me to remind me about the study group when it time comes. Therefor we both have eachothers numbers. She texted me Hi right away so i could get her number, and then a little later I text her "well hello! :)" .
When I walked with her to another building she touched my left arm as she was walking away from me. I smiled and walked to where I was going.

So thinking I'm not going to call her. I'm just going to keep talking to her, and keep up with flirting and do some kino.

Its just strange because I've never been in a position when a girl I've been eyeing asks me for my number. Whats next?
 
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Tell her study groups are fine and all, but sometimes you find it can be less distracting to work one-on-one with somebody. If she agrees, she digs you. If not, she doesn't, and you can move on.

Just go for the gusto.
 
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I ended up grabbing a coffee with her after class last week. We talked for a while on the steps at our school since starbucks was full of students.

Our study group is going to get a drink or two after our big test this thursday, so I told her she should join us... I plan on asking her out to a nicer coffee joint when that time comes. I also have a study group with her on wednesday.
I just need to keep talking to her, she seems interested.

ALSO while I was talking to her, and having coffee this other girl that I've been getting to know came and sat down with us, when the first girl left to go to some work, I got the other girls number after telling her about the billiards club right by my place.
She told me she sucks, so I said, we can suck together. haha.

Just as I was getting her number girl number 1 walked by again, and she saw that I had my phone out. I acknowledged her and looked at her and smiled.
So I'm totally in a great spot. This is all out of relaxing and just being nice.

I'm hoping to go out for coffee with girl number 1 when we get back from winter break. or maybe sooner who knows.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sounds like that couldn't have gone better for you! An AFC would've had a panic attack if girl 1 saw you networking with other girls, but your reaction sounds like it was perfect. Way to ante up with confidence.

I'm sure myself and the rest of the board will be excited to see how you juggle these two lucky ladies.

I do dates over billiards quite often because I suck too. It's always fun.
 
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Awesome, yeah. I will try to keep you guys posted on my situation.

If it helps... I have recently been going to a therapist for my anxiety issues which have been helping, also talking about these kinds of situations with a therapist is often a really good thing to do. I thought I was moving too slow but the truth is just the opposite.

Take it easy, I'll update you guys soon.
 
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update

Alright so here is an update:

I'm back from winter break. During break I ended up texting her Merry Christmas and Happy New year on new years eve, and I got positive responses back.

Still I'm unsure how interested she really is in me, but time will tell.
I got a hold of her this weekend and she called me back. We chatted for about 10 minutes and I suggested we meet up sometime this week instead of chatting our brains out.

So she said cool and she is suppose to call me back sometime this week to hangout. Basically I decided to let her call me back because she works on the weekends and we are just starting school this week so both of us our confused how our schedule will be like. I think I did alright by making her call me, since I'm more open during the week and weekend where she might be working more often and has to travel 25 minutes to school.

Anyways, I'm planning on having some casual coffee with her, just to break the ice, and be chill about it. Hopefully I can find out if she's dating anyone and if she digs me. Everything looks positive but I dont want to get trapped in anything by keeping my hopes up too much.

Let me know if there are any suggestions.
 
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