"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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In a good spot, but different than usual...

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I'm in a really good spot right now with this girl who I've been eyeing since the beginning of the semester not really taking much of a opportunity to get to know her or talk to her.
I walk to class and say hi to her and exchange some small talk about classwork. After class we get into another conversation on the way out the door and out of the building where we get eachothers names and start talking some more.

Here is the strange and good part. As a class are planning group study sessions, so in order to get in touch she tells me she'll text me to remind me about the study group when it time comes. Therefor we both have eachothers numbers. She texted me Hi right away so i could get her number, and then a little later I text her "well hello! :)" .
When I walked with her to another building she touched my left arm as she was walking away from me. I smiled and walked to where I was going.

So thinking I'm not going to call her. I'm just going to keep talking to her, and keep up with flirting and do some kino.

Its just strange because I've never been in a position when a girl I've been eyeing asks me for my number. Whats next?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tell her study groups are fine and all, but sometimes you find it can be less distracting to work one-on-one with somebody. If she agrees, she digs you. If not, she doesn't, and you can move on.

Just go for the gusto.
 
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I ended up grabbing a coffee with her after class last week. We talked for a while on the steps at our school since starbucks was full of students.

Our study group is going to get a drink or two after our big test this thursday, so I told her she should join us... I plan on asking her out to a nicer coffee joint when that time comes. I also have a study group with her on wednesday.
I just need to keep talking to her, she seems interested.

ALSO while I was talking to her, and having coffee this other girl that I've been getting to know came and sat down with us, when the first girl left to go to some work, I got the other girls number after telling her about the billiards club right by my place.
She told me she sucks, so I said, we can suck together. haha.

Just as I was getting her number girl number 1 walked by again, and she saw that I had my phone out. I acknowledged her and looked at her and smiled.
So I'm totally in a great spot. This is all out of relaxing and just being nice.

I'm hoping to go out for coffee with girl number 1 when we get back from winter break. or maybe sooner who knows.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like that couldn't have gone better for you! An AFC would've had a panic attack if girl 1 saw you networking with other girls, but your reaction sounds like it was perfect. Way to ante up with confidence.

I'm sure myself and the rest of the board will be excited to see how you juggle these two lucky ladies.

I do dates over billiards quite often because I suck too. It's always fun.
 
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Awesome, yeah. I will try to keep you guys posted on my situation.

If it helps... I have recently been going to a therapist for my anxiety issues which have been helping, also talking about these kinds of situations with a therapist is often a really good thing to do. I thought I was moving too slow but the truth is just the opposite.

Take it easy, I'll update you guys soon.
 
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update

Alright so here is an update:

I'm back from winter break. During break I ended up texting her Merry Christmas and Happy New year on new years eve, and I got positive responses back.

Still I'm unsure how interested she really is in me, but time will tell.
I got a hold of her this weekend and she called me back. We chatted for about 10 minutes and I suggested we meet up sometime this week instead of chatting our brains out.

So she said cool and she is suppose to call me back sometime this week to hangout. Basically I decided to let her call me back because she works on the weekends and we are just starting school this week so both of us our confused how our schedule will be like. I think I did alright by making her call me, since I'm more open during the week and weekend where she might be working more often and has to travel 25 minutes to school.

Anyways, I'm planning on having some casual coffee with her, just to break the ice, and be chill about it. Hopefully I can find out if she's dating anyone and if she digs me. Everything looks positive but I dont want to get trapped in anything by keeping my hopes up too much.

Let me know if there are any suggestions.
 
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