"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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In a bit of a jam...

seek&destroy

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There's this girl I like a lot and I want to go out with her, but the problem is that we are friends already. A mutual friend of ours has advised me to tell her how I feel and ask her if she is open to dating right now and if she would like to go out with me sometime, but to also let her know that if she rejects me, that I will not take it personally. Like she said..." it will hurt, but if you show that it affects you, you will only be hurting your friendship with her, and building tension between the two of you is the last thing you want to do. by showing her that rejection doesn't effect you, you will earn her respect because you are not chasing her around, and in the end that is what might make her reconsider"

what should I do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Master Disaster

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Ask her out right now you got nothing to lose either your gonna be g/f and b/f or ur just going to be friends like normal. So go up to her and don't i repeat don't confess your feelings. Just get the mood set and just ask her out.
 

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You shouldn't have confessed how you felt, it GIVES HER THE POWER.

I would say don't ask her out, it can and PROBABLY RUIN THE RELATIONSHIP.
There are pletty of girls out there, but IF YOU MUST, GO INSANE WITH THE KINO.:woo:
 

redbullfbu

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i wouldnt ask her out cuz if she says no it will be awkword after that. ease into it a lil bit. call her

you: hey my buddies and i were gonna do somethin tonight but we decided not to, how bout some dinner?
her: sure when?
you: in about half hour, ill come get u
her: great see ya then

if that works show up 15 minutes late.

if she says shes busy jus be like alrite cya later and try again next week with a different excuse to go out with her..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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