"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Improving Verbal game

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Don Juan
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I've always had this issue when I approach. I'm able to attract women intially, but then sometimes find that they end up losing attraction because the conversation ends up dry.

Overall, I'm physically very fit, make strong eye contact while talking, and am able to physically escalate.But while talking to the girl I sometimes end up making boring "small talk" conversation, i.e where you from, what do you do etc. and it ends up dragging a bit.

This is something I really need to work on and in general try and make the interactions more fun.

Any advice on how I could improve this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PersistenceIsKey

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Yes, instead of asking questions, make statements

For example:

Instead of saying, where are you from? Say... you look like a New York kind of girl.

Also cold read. Assume things about her, and she'll either correct you, ask you why you think that, or you'll be correct.

Example: "Hey, I bet you're an art major. You come across as really creative."

Make sure your question is a bit open ended.
 

seethehoop

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Agree with the above. Women love to talk about themselves. Also i talk random sh!t too, i find it doesn't matter what you talk about its how you carry yourself.

I also find that if i think too hard about what to say it dries up so don't over think it.

I do tend to talk about taboo subjects too. Mainly politics and religion but that's just to get a rise. They always say you should never tall about politics and religion. I just respond saying that's why they are the best subjects to talk about! Then I tease them about what ever they say.
 
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