Improving and Dealing With PE?

[dmvdav]

I've had a lifelong problem with PE and I'm wondering if anyone has overcome a similar problem and seen better results. I've never apologized about cvming quickly but I've been wondering if it might be beneficial to open up about it to a girl I've been getting serious with. I'm not talking about saying anything too whiny or emotional, just something along the lines of "I've been having this problem recently and I don't know why but it's something I'm trying to figure out."
I know PE gets worse the more a person thinks about it so maybe being open about it will help me not worry about it subconsciously.

I've been sexually active for 10 years now (I'm 26) so it's pretty much permanently implanted in my brain. There have been times when I decided to not go all the way and have sex with a girl just because I don't want her to remember me that way. I've had a few girls begging for me to fvck them after we've been having fun with foreplay and I just say no because I feel like no performance is better than a poor one.

It's not as big of a deal when I'm banging a plate once a month because she's excited enough just to spend time with me. It starts to frustrate me when I get more serious with a plate and we start hooking up more frequently. That's when it gets too hard to overlook. They never say anything but that's when I start to see flashes of disappointment and frustration in their eyes.

I've been casually dating this one plate for four months now and things are getting a lot more serious between us. We're hanging out and having sex three to four times a week and now is when I start feeling insecure about this problem. I can make girls cvm in other ways and am great with my hands but honestly I wish I could get some control over PE because it makes me feel insecure, no matter how confident I am.

It's not the type that happens instantaneously, but it's still pretty quick. Usually girls try to go for round 2 very soon after but I have to wait a long time to recover.

 

[marmel75]

Its very simple. You need to start doing Kegel exercises(pretend you are trying to stop yourself from peeing) regularly and then when you feel like you are about to bust a nut, stop what you are doing and pull out until the feeling subsides. Once you do that a few times, you will become desensitized and then you should be able to go for a lot longer.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Kegel exercises. If nothing else, they help your confidence.

There's a lot of psychology involved in it. I myself have PE, but I've gotten to the point where my refractory phase is so short and erections so hard, I can bust a nut and keep going for 2-3 rounds consistently.

Despite what the gurus say, I've found it's pretty improbable to stop a full on ejaculation when you're fully stroking a woman. However, when the PC muscles become strong enough, you can separate the ejaculation from orgasm, which means you can blow a load and maintain your erection thereafter.

Practice doing Kegels several times week just like a regular weight lifting exercise. Next time you're whacking off, squeeze as tight as possible when you're about to ***. If you can't hold it in, continue squeezing so that it drips out but you're body doesn't have a full on orgasm. Continue whacking off while you're still hard. Do this for 3 ejaculations or so per session.

Also, don't be so hard on yourself. The average time between penetration and male orgasm is just 5-6 minutes.

 

[Huffman]

squeeze as tight as possible when you're about to ***. If you can't hold it in, continue squeezing so that it drips out but you're body doesn't have a full on orgasm.

I do this during sex. If you mini-c*m in this way, you won't lose the erection at first. Keep pumping for a bit until it's stable again, then switch condom. I last forever on that 2nd round.

Oh, by the way, different positions. From behind is cool, but it doesn't stimulate me as much. Great for lasting long.

 

[JJRocker]

Diaphragmatic breathing works wonders!

What's more important is that you forget about the quantity and focus on quality!

When you start getting concerned about your performance women pick up on this! Always be in the moment! Always be totally present during sex!

If your so hot for this chick that you don't care if she gets off or not she will be much more likely to climax with you!

If not jump of and stilmutate her gspot for 10 or 15 minutes! Give her a couple vaginal orgasms! If by that time you are erect again! Damn the torpedoes and full speed ahead!

The important thing here is knowing the way a woman thinks!

Telling her "b!t(h su(k my
D!(k is telling her your perfect in every way and I want to see the very best of me in you!

This flies in the face of what most men believe, but trust me the only women who don't get off on this are sexually repressed!

Your the man! Be the man! If your so hot for her that your picking her up and slamming her butt first against the wall pulling her hair and bitting her, and talking dirty to her ... she will be hot for you that time won't be an issue!

Your the man!

Good luck brother!

 

[foreverAFC]

just tell the girls you are so turned on by them you cant help yourself

 

[JohnChops]

Ejaculation is a product of your sympathetic nervous system. Blood flow to your penis is simply a parasympathetic response. They both work together, one just takes over depending on the stimulus and situation.

Relaxing helps a lot, if you get too excited you active your SNS and *** in 2 seconds.
When I relax and just let her do her thing, I always end up lasting for extended periods of time.

 

[Amer1group]

http://www.jasonjulius.com/ and click the presentation: "How to last 20 minutes in the bedroom". (I have NOT tested this, but it seems very good. It covers Kegel excercises, etc.).

OR

Eat her *****.

 

[JJRocker]

Ejaculation is a product of your sympathetic nervous system. Blood flow to your penis is simply a parasympathetic response. They both work together, one just takes over depending on the stimulus and situation.

Relaxing helps a lot, if you get too excited you active your SNS and *** in 2 seconds.
When I relax and just let her do her thing, I always end up lasting for extended periods of time.

Truer words have never been spoken! You can seperate ejaculations from your orgasms!

 

[El Payaso]

Don't go in like an eager beaver. Go in and just chill there. Get used to her pvssy flesh. Feel it out. Breathe in and breathe out. It's not an arm's race to the top. You have a the time in the world. Be calm. Once you have chilled there for a good minute or two.

Start sliding in and out. Maintain a steady, calm breath while doing this.