Improve talking (going on a long trip)

[SayWhat]

Hi all

I'm going on a 4 month trip (perhaps even longer) where I will be staying at the same place for most of the time. I will be meeting a lot of new people, but what is scaring me is the fact I always come over as a silent person.

I am silent because of:

1: low self-esteem
2: I think when I talk what I want to say, I come over as one of those guys who talks about stupid stuff, is annoying when he speaks,... (this comes forth from number one)

But how do I change this, I heard so much stories of people who are doing such trips it's the time of their life because of the people they meet and so forth. I want this trip to be life changing and a great experience. But how can I change the way I talk to come over as an enjoying person to be around with or have interesting stuff to say?

Also what 'makes' people annoying when they talk. What ere the things which make you say he's an annoying person to talk with?

 

[Mike32ct]

I learned that it is more about WHO you talk to than your conversational skills per se.

In the game, you start talking to a female and see how she responds.

You should do the exact same thing in conversations with people. Say something (in a friendly way) and see if they try to talk to you.

You have to find people that you "click with."

As an introvert, I'd rather find one or two cool people to talk to for a long time rather than "try to be the life of the party" and attempt 20 3-minute conversations that go nowhere because I have no common interests with those people.

The long and the short if it is you should be fishing to find people that WANT to talk to you and that you are compatible with.

 

[Mike32ct]

Finally, try to talk about things you are interested in and/or passionate about.

There has to at least one topic that, if I brought it up, you would talk for hours.

If you can try to fit that topic into the context of the situation, that's much better.