"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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silenthill

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Do girls like it when you show off? I can do a back flip really well, I'm thinking about just pulling one off in like the hall or something and see if anyone approachs me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DonMEgaHoss

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Thats a no no haven't you learned so far trying to impress others ususally carries the oppisite result... Just do your thing and let others spread the word about you through some really cool action or whatever.. So you dont do any boasting of yourself and letting others spread the word

Have you gotten rid of the those windbreaker kakhi's yet?
 

silenthill

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Right now I'm wearing some pants that are not so loose, but they are still kakhis. I'm still keeping the other pants though.
 

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you want women to be impressed only by how you perform in the bedroom.

i'm not saying to shove a stuffed sock down your pants leg. but dont worry about a standing backflip.

work on your game instead.
 

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only do that when its situational.... dont try to impress people like that.. but if for some reason you're watching tv or something and someone does a backflip.. be like "I can do that" .. people probably wont believe you.. just play it off, be like "I'll show you one day".. and then maybe one day they remember.. and then you do it... but don't do it like you're trying to impress them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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so all you pretty much wear is kakhis? I hope at least some different colors.. Chicks get use to you wearing the same ole thing homie.. See it as predictable which we all know/ or should know that equals boring..

I dress like a giggalo one day with a nice pimp long sleeve button-up shirt and some nice pants. Dress like a muscle-head with a muscle shirt and some casual jeans... you know what Im getting at? Change it up..

Some girls say something like, " You look nice, whats the occasion? " They think you got a date ( if your talking to them in the later hours of the day.) And if you feel uber smooth you could say you're dressing up to make the other girls jealous by hanging with her.
 

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Well I just got back from class. I tried it out. I was in the commons area where people just hang out and stuff. I got one of my friends to come becuase it would look to weird to be alone and do it. I put down my bag and pulled off a solid backflip.

Some guys in the corner clapped, and there was this table of girls that were watching. One of them said "wow did you just see that". I picked up my bag and we casually walked off. When I passed the girls table they all smiled at me. Couldn't think of anything to say, so I smiled back.
 

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hey that's another good idea....... act like you had a bet with some guy... one of your friends or something... make it look like your really trying hard to do the backflip.. once you do it have him act shocked, then hand you money... then walk away.. that's so awesome.. I'm gonna have to try it.
I can only do a backflip on a trampoline though (well, landing on one)... I can jump from the pole, do the backflip, and land on my feet.. but it's a soft landing... bet the ground's a bit different.
 

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You've lost from the start if you want to do something just to impress a b!tch. I can't say this enough, DO NOT try to qualify for anyone. It puts you in an inferior position.
 

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Stuff like this is good for getting attention as with peacocking, but it won't make a woman's pu55y drip for you. You have to do that part by talking, touching, and flirting. See DJ Bible for more details.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the guy above was right. you CANNOT QUALIFY yourself to anyone. I used to have this problem, i posted in my blog about it. Either you come off as insecure, or you end up overqualifying yourself.

As a buddy of mine taught me, "the only way to qualify yourself is to show her that you can relate to her"
 

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I'm not trying to steal hearts here, I'm just setting myself apart from the average joe.
 

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the avg joe tries to impress, so basically u've defeated your purpose.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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exactly what n00b said. You're destroying one of the principles of the DJ man. You shouldn't make yourself a circus attraction just to get attention from the girls. That's simply retarded in my opinion.

Backflips won't get you dates, and neither will any other methods of "impressing." Impressing will work if you're in the animal world where you have to be the alpha male to get the chicks. You're a human. Girls can think. People can and will assume. Formulate those three things together and you got yourself REALITY bro.

In a nutshell, DON'T IMPRESS with backflips. You'd probably risk breaking your neck over a futile attempt to get a date or something. Just stick with the DJ methods.
 

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let's imagine a scenario shall we?

You're standing around then all of a sudden this girl does a back flip just to impress you. I'm sure you wouldn't give a damn about her

yea when I was an AFC, I did this kind of stuff, but not backflips....the results were bad though

once a girl notices that you are trying to impress her, she won't be impressed. Carry the attitude that you're the one who needs to be impressed by the girl.
 

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Imagine how hard people would have laughed at you if you failed and broke your neck, just cause you were trying to hard to impress a girl.
 

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silenthill -

something i've noticed is that you post questions and then get defensive. Open yourself up alittle bit to other people, it would help.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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