silenthill
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Do girls like it when you show off? I can do a back flip really well, I'm thinking about just pulling one off in like the hall or something and see if anyone approachs me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Impressing a girl?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonMEgaHoss
Don Juan
Thats a no no haven't you learned so far trying to impress others ususally carries the oppisite result... Just do your thing and let others spread the word about you through some really cool action or whatever.. So you dont do any boasting of yourself and letting others spread the word
Have you gotten rid of the those windbreaker kakhi's yet?
Have you gotten rid of the those windbreaker kakhi's yet?
silenthill
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Right now I'm wearing some pants that are not so loose, but they are still kakhis. I'm still keeping the other pants though.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
you want women to be impressed only by how you perform in the bedroom.
i'm not saying to shove a stuffed sock down your pants leg. but dont worry about a standing backflip.
work on your game instead.
i'm not saying to shove a stuffed sock down your pants leg. but dont worry about a standing backflip.
work on your game instead.
MinDFreeZ
Don Juan
only do that when its situational.... dont try to impress people like that.. but if for some reason you're watching tv or something and someone does a backflip.. be like "I can do that" .. people probably wont believe you.. just play it off, be like "I'll show you one day".. and then maybe one day they remember.. and then you do it... but don't do it like you're trying to impress them.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonMEgaHoss
Don Juan
so all you pretty much wear is kakhis? I hope at least some different colors.. Chicks get use to you wearing the same ole thing homie.. See it as predictable which we all know/ or should know that equals boring..
I dress like a giggalo one day with a nice pimp long sleeve button-up shirt and some nice pants. Dress like a muscle-head with a muscle shirt and some casual jeans... you know what Im getting at? Change it up..
Some girls say something like, " You look nice, whats the occasion? " They think you got a date ( if your talking to them in the later hours of the day.) And if you feel uber smooth you could say you're dressing up to make the other girls jealous by hanging with her.
I dress like a giggalo one day with a nice pimp long sleeve button-up shirt and some nice pants. Dress like a muscle-head with a muscle shirt and some casual jeans... you know what Im getting at? Change it up..
Some girls say something like, " You look nice, whats the occasion? " They think you got a date ( if your talking to them in the later hours of the day.) And if you feel uber smooth you could say you're dressing up to make the other girls jealous by hanging with her.
silenthill
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Well I just got back from class. I tried it out. I was in the commons area where people just hang out and stuff. I got one of my friends to come becuase it would look to weird to be alone and do it. I put down my bag and pulled off a solid backflip.
Some guys in the corner clapped, and there was this table of girls that were watching. One of them said "wow did you just see that". I picked up my bag and we casually walked off. When I passed the girls table they all smiled at me. Couldn't think of anything to say, so I smiled back.
Some guys in the corner clapped, and there was this table of girls that were watching. One of them said "wow did you just see that". I picked up my bag and we casually walked off. When I passed the girls table they all smiled at me. Couldn't think of anything to say, so I smiled back.
MinDFreeZ
Don Juan
hey that's another good idea....... act like you had a bet with some guy... one of your friends or something... make it look like your really trying hard to do the backflip.. once you do it have him act shocked, then hand you money... then walk away.. that's so awesome.. I'm gonna have to try it.
I can only do a backflip on a trampoline though (well, landing on one)... I can jump from the pole, do the backflip, and land on my feet.. but it's a soft landing... bet the ground's a bit different.
I can only do a backflip on a trampoline though (well, landing on one)... I can jump from the pole, do the backflip, and land on my feet.. but it's a soft landing... bet the ground's a bit different.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
You've lost from the start if you want to do something just to impress a b!tch. I can't say this enough, DO NOT try to qualify for anyone. It puts you in an inferior position.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
spitkicker
Don Juan
the guy above was right. you CANNOT QUALIFY yourself to anyone. I used to have this problem, i posted in my blog about it. Either you come off as insecure, or you end up overqualifying yourself.
As a buddy of mine taught me, "the only way to qualify yourself is to show her that you can relate to her"
As a buddy of mine taught me, "the only way to qualify yourself is to show her that you can relate to her"
blueangel83
Senior Don Juan
I get fcking annoyed when guys try hard to impress. I see them as annoying rejects.
silenthill
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I'm not trying to steal hearts here, I'm just setting myself apart from the average joe.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
exactly what n00b said. You're destroying one of the principles of the DJ man. You shouldn't make yourself a circus attraction just to get attention from the girls. That's simply retarded in my opinion.
Backflips won't get you dates, and neither will any other methods of "impressing." Impressing will work if you're in the animal world where you have to be the alpha male to get the chicks. You're a human. Girls can think. People can and will assume. Formulate those three things together and you got yourself REALITY bro.
In a nutshell, DON'T IMPRESS with backflips. You'd probably risk breaking your neck over a futile attempt to get a date or something. Just stick with the DJ methods.
Backflips won't get you dates, and neither will any other methods of "impressing." Impressing will work if you're in the animal world where you have to be the alpha male to get the chicks. You're a human. Girls can think. People can and will assume. Formulate those three things together and you got yourself REALITY bro.
In a nutshell, DON'T IMPRESS with backflips. You'd probably risk breaking your neck over a futile attempt to get a date or something. Just stick with the DJ methods.
defiancy
Senior Don Juan
let's imagine a scenario shall we?
You're standing around then all of a sudden this girl does a back flip just to impress you. I'm sure you wouldn't give a damn about her
yea when I was an AFC, I did this kind of stuff, but not backflips....the results were bad though
once a girl notices that you are trying to impress her, she won't be impressed. Carry the attitude that you're the one who needs to be impressed by the girl.
You're standing around then all of a sudden this girl does a back flip just to impress you. I'm sure you wouldn't give a damn about her
yea when I was an AFC, I did this kind of stuff, but not backflips....the results were bad though
once a girl notices that you are trying to impress her, she won't be impressed. Carry the attitude that you're the one who needs to be impressed by the girl.
tigre
Don Juan
Imagine how hard people would have laughed at you if you failed and broke your neck, just cause you were trying to hard to impress a girl.
spitkicker
Don Juan
silenthill -
something i've noticed is that you post questions and then get defensive. Open yourself up alittle bit to other people, it would help.
something i've noticed is that you post questions and then get defensive. Open yourself up alittle bit to other people, it would help.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.