"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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IMPORTANT: Make sure your eyebrows stay level when you talk!!!

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Do this: videotape yourself talking to someone, or just talk to yourself in the mirror. Watch your eyebrows. Do they move inadvertantly when you talk?

Mine did. A LOT. So much so that my mom pointed out that I accidentily made a waitress uncomfortable, because she took it as me being overtly flirty. In other situations, the eyebrow motions can come off as being surprises, fearful, or uncertain, depending on the situation. If you are trying to be more cool, calm, aloof, and whatnot, this is murder. As for me, I AM cool, calm and aloof by nature, so this was giving off an impression of me being the opposite of who I am.

Before you go on your quest to keep your eyebrows level, do some homework. This needs to hit home. Watch a Bond movie, and observe his facial demeanor. Casino Royale happens to be what drove the point home for me. His consistently level eyebrows very much added to his alpha, calm, aloof demeanor.

If this is something you, upon self-examination, determine to be a problem, work on this. I guarantee you'll notice a difference in your interactions with chicks, and with people in general, too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I'm picturing Bert from Sesame Street....
 

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Brak86 said:
I guess so, but this is such a minute detail that I'm not sure people are ready to work on this.
It's more of an intermediate tip. If you can't even talk to women, then forget it. But if you can, make sure you don't move your eyebrows a ton. I did it REALLY badly, and it messed things up pretty nicely in many cases.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Babnik

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I think you need to show emotion and facial expression can be a sign of interest.
If you keep them straight all the time - you will look cold and unapproachable.

Too much is bad, but when you smile or you are surprised - I think its OK...
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'm picturing Bert from Sesame Street....
LOL!

You guys know they had to take them off of Sesame Street because everyone thought they were gay?
 

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I just wanna say that this one of the greatest tips ive ever received on this web site. I think my eyebrow movements were being used too much as well. I payed attention to it today and had one of the greatest days with girls and people I had to deal with. great tip thanks
 

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this is a horrible tip. you want to show expression in your face, this is such a bad tip...mods please remove this. How has this helped you, the waitress felt uncomfortable because she wasn't attracted to you, if you did a flirty facial expression and she was interested, then you wouldn't of had that problem. So work on your looks before you work on making your self into a mime.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ValleyDJing

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Overly flirty? Is there such a thing? You're mom is trying to keep you from getting layed man.
 

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I can't believe it. I thought you were joking for sure, but this is actually a good tip and I move my eyebrows all the time. Maybe I should stop.

Izz
 

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I hope people don't become overly obsessed with the smaller details of life. The less time spent mulling over minute things, the better.

A clear head wins the day.
 

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Just walk around with a poker face all the time. And don't change the tonality of your voice either... this way people will never know what you're really thinking. haha
 
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