Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Shhhhhh....Demon said:Irony.![]()
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Shhhhhh....Demon said:Irony.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
skip2mylou781 said:Ruckus, i agree with u about there being golden nuggets here at sosuave NO DOUBT ABOUT IT! The problem is those people who OVERANALYZE
Some people don't learn on their own. I already addressed this. Did you read it? They don't figure out that THEY are the problem when they fvck up. Sosuave slaps them in the face and gives them a starting point. Look at LukeSkywalker. He's a fvck up even after having read everything. Sh1t, i shouldn't have said anything in case he AMOGs me.I practiced tryin to get with girls, and u are correct, i sucked somewhat, in fact i kissed only 4 girls in a period of 1 year after my 1st kiss, and i fcvked only 5 girls in 1 year when i first had sex........and over time, i simply LEARNED from my own mistakes, AND got better........by the way I drastically improved in looks too (lost weight, work out, nice clothes, better hair)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Same thing you describe of drastic self improvement happened to me also.....After I visited SoSuave.skip2mylou781 said:Ruckus, i agree with u about there being golden nuggets here at sosuave NO DOUBT ABOUT IT! The problem is those people who OVERANALYZE and try to follow rules when there are no rules to follow........
I practiced tryin to get with girls, and u are correct, i sucked somewhat, in fact i kissed only 4 girls in a period of 1 year after my 1st kiss, and i fcvked only 5 girls in 1 year when i first had sex........and over time, i simply LEARNED from my own mistakes, AND got better........by the way I drastically improved in looks too (lost weight, work out, nice clothes, better hair)
simply improving physically and mentally I was able to learn how to be much much much better with girls than i EVER was when i first started
By teh way, all that was BEFORE i ever knew sosuave existed