"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Impatience, a DJ's real worst enemy

Broham

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A recent thread on oneitis prompted me to start this thread. Hopefully I can stay on-topic here.

All the great posters on this board seem to present the same themes relating to improving all aspects of your life, not just with women. This is golden advice, but I think one facet that's rarely mentioned, yet so critical is PATIENCE.

Patience, or lack thereof, has been my worst enemy my entire life.

-I've lost points on tests in school because I rushed through them.

-I've made impulse purchases because I had to have the product RIGHT NOW, when I could've waited until it went on sale and saved some money.

-I lost a chance at a promotion at work since I kept trying to convince my boss that I was ready when I really wasn't.

The list goes on and on......

This carries on to my myriad experiences with girls. I have always seemed to rushed into things, not b/c I was obsessed with the girl (although I will admit to having oneitis at one time) but b/c I wanted booty without playing the game long enough!!

I think part of this problem is American culture and how it's brainwashed us into needing to have everything NOW!! We can have porn whenever we want it, strippers, TV is filled with sex. Guess what, it's not REALITY! You're dealing with someone's emotions here. Nothing good comes without patience. Do you think any of the great inventor's rushed into their creations?Fellas you gotta realize no matter how hot you may think you are or how good your game is, nothing comes overnight. You gotta play the game, or better yet, let the game come to you. Why is LeBron James so good at BBall? Watch him play. Besides having the physical tools, he's cool and patient, doesn't rush things, let's the game come to him. That's how you gotta act.

To reiterate what all the Great Ones have said: Improve your life, but more important, become a patient person. You aren't going to die tomorrow, God willing. All the chicks aren't going to disappear, and if a girl is into you, she's certainly not either. If you smother her early on and expect too much, consider her gone forever. Believe me, I've had many girls perma-flake on me after all the "signs" seemed to be there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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