"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Impact of being low inibition and NT

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While being low in inhibition and low in neuroticism and high NT might seem beneficial in certain contexts, it generally poses challenges for developing maturity in men. Maturity typically involves self-control, emotional intelligence, and the ability to navigate complex social landscapes.

On the other hand, low inhibition and high neuroticism can be beneficial for the "IDGAF" mindset, which is also a key aspect of life.

It would be awesome to hear more about how these characteristics change your life and open "doors" to social possibilities.

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There's also something that connects to this topic, like a quote I've heard from my friend, the CEO, and I've also seen it in various posts on the forum: "It doesn't matter WHAT you say, or if what you say is nonsense; it's HOW you say it that makes it a statement—something that is 100% true and reliable."

Nothing could be more true.

It's like when you scold a child by saying that if he doesn't eat everything on his plate, the black wolf will come and eat his feet. You know that it's completely fake, but you understand how to say it in order to get the child to follow your advice.

But is this really how we should live our lives with other people? How do we feel about ourselves in such situations? Will this improve our value to others? It’s essentially how politicians talk.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Since I'm high inhibition, I'm unable to comment on what it's like to be low inhibition.

I will say, however, you made a good point I hadn't thought of. While being low inhibition is beneficial in the sense that you have no qualms about making a move on broads, low inhibition traits also mean you're prone to impulsive behavior (which could come back to bite you)
 

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(which could come back to bite you)
I think there should be a median treshold for a good combination of both.
For example, what I've noticed lately, is that you can be good, and convince with actions, but there is an irresistible charm for those who can convince with words, even in the long term they can maintain things. (if they are not devoid of content)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No problem.

Interesting topic.

Nothing good comes from neuroticism. I can’t think of a single advantage.

Being a bit cautious or slightly inhibited is probably a good thing. But too much inhibition could hold somebody back from success. Too low inhibition could be quite risky.
I think I'm actually mid-high in neuroticism actually
 
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