"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Impact of being low inibition and NT

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While being low in inhibition and low in neuroticism and high NT might seem beneficial in certain contexts, it generally poses challenges for developing maturity in men. Maturity typically involves self-control, emotional intelligence, and the ability to navigate complex social landscapes.

On the other hand, low inhibition and high neuroticism can be beneficial for the "IDGAF" mindset, which is also a key aspect of life.

It would be awesome to hear more about how these characteristics change your life and open "doors" to social possibilities.

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There's also something that connects to this topic, like a quote I've heard from my friend, the CEO, and I've also seen it in various posts on the forum: "It doesn't matter WHAT you say, or if what you say is nonsense; it's HOW you say it that makes it a statement—something that is 100% true and reliable."

Nothing could be more true.

It's like when you scold a child by saying that if he doesn't eat everything on his plate, the black wolf will come and eat his feet. You know that it's completely fake, but you understand how to say it in order to get the child to follow your advice.

But is this really how we should live our lives with other people? How do we feel about ourselves in such situations? Will this improve our value to others? It’s essentially how politicians talk.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Since I'm high inhibition, I'm unable to comment on what it's like to be low inhibition.

I will say, however, you made a good point I hadn't thought of. While being low inhibition is beneficial in the sense that you have no qualms about making a move on broads, low inhibition traits also mean you're prone to impulsive behavior (which could come back to bite you)
 

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(which could come back to bite you)
I think there should be a median treshold for a good combination of both.
For example, what I've noticed lately, is that you can be good, and convince with actions, but there is an irresistible charm for those who can convince with words, even in the long term they can maintain things. (if they are not devoid of content)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No problem.

Interesting topic.

Nothing good comes from neuroticism. I can’t think of a single advantage.

Being a bit cautious or slightly inhibited is probably a good thing. But too much inhibition could hold somebody back from success. Too low inhibition could be quite risky.
I think I'm actually mid-high in neuroticism actually
 
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