Immunity to Crying

[Desdinova]

For the past several years, I've been immune to a woman's tears. When a woman starts crying, I don't feel bad, nor do I feel the need to comfort her. But this is really weird...

The other day, me and my LTR got into an argument about something. Anyway, she turned the waterworks on. Now, the facial expression, the whiny talking, and the stuffy nose were all combined. I was looking at her, trying to listen to her, but trying even harder not to break out laughing my ass off. The way she looked and sounded just seemed fvcking hilarious to me, and I was fighting like mad to hold back the laughter.

Has anybody else experienced this?

 

[Sir Drinksalot]

I haven't experienced that but I hope to.

Crying is a woman's most basic and juvenile attempt at manipulation.

It should be regarded as any other childish behavior. Take a time out, and when you're ready to talk like a grownup we can discuss it.

 

[ExploringOne]

It's strange, but in my case, as soon as the waterworks start, I kind of tune out emotionaly. I'm actually pretty good at judging emotions, but for whatever reason, as soon as my gf starts to cry, i just stop caring.

Couple of nights ago we had a fight, and the tears follow. I wasn't about to break out laughing, I was actually really annoyed. The thought going through my head was "how long is this $hit gonna take". Honestly, i have the temptation to just say "ok, are you done now, can i go back to work?". I know from experience though, if I say anything like that, it just goes on longer.

I don't think I'm wired correctly when it comes to emotions at all though. I can tell what others feel, especially by the sound of their voice, and I act accordingly, but to be honest, most of the time, that's just it, I act.

I have had the desire to laugh when watching other people have arguments though, but I think that's normal. (Is it?)

From a mental health perspective, we're both probably fvcked up. Though I actually tend to think emotional distance is a good thing.

 

[DJDamage]

Crying is a woman's most basic and juvenile attempt at manipulation.

It should be regarded as any other childish behavior. Take a time out, and when you're ready to talk like a grownup we can discuss it.

Aman to that.

Unfortunately in our feminized infested media, when a woman cries she ends up being seen as the helpless victim. Just open any talk show and watch an interaction between a man and a woman. When the woman cries everyone feel the need to embrace her and take her side because she is more "emotional" and "fregile" then the man. As soon as the tears come out AFC's start to feel bad and actually believe that those tears are sincere and give up on the issue even though they were right, just so she can stop crying and everything else will be ok.

In actuality this is how man and woman differ in handling intense emotions. When a woman cries it helps her to feel better afterwards so it serves a purpose, and she also uses that as a manipulation tool "look how hurt you made me feel you evil man" to get what she want just like she did when she was a little girl. When a man feels intense he doesn't cry rather he best channel his emotions in taking it out with boxing gloves on a punching bag or hitting the gym and thus he will feel better afterwards.

 

[Latinoman]

For the past several years, I've been immune to a woman's tears. When a woman starts crying, I don't feel bad, nor do I feel the need to comfort her. But this is really weird...

The other day, me and my LTR got into an argument about something. Anyway, she turned the waterworks on. Now, the facial expression, the whiny talking, and the stuffy nose were all combined. I was looking at her, trying to listen to her, but trying even harder not to break out laughing my ass off. The way she looked and sounded just seemed fvcking hilarious to me, and I was fighting like mad to hold back the laughter.

Has anybody else experienced this?

Not with the crying. As the only time my girlfriend cries is for legitimate emotional things (such as the death of a love one, or something REALLY hurtfull that I might have done).

But I had issues with my girlfriend the other day. She was very difficult to the point of giving me ultimatums (lol). When I finally stopped by her place to pick up some things...she started to make some excuses about her behavior. She approached me and gave me this "sad" looking face (as truly sad) and a hug...then told me she loved me, etc. When she was giving me the hug, I was trying VERY VERY HARD not to laugh.

Why?

Because I know she was trying to manipulate me (maybe not intentionally, but still).

It is funny.

 

[Latinoman]

My now ex-wife, late in our marriage used to do the crying thing a little. Now she does it more.

Quite honestly, I could not and cannot stand it. Cannot stand it when my daughter does the same.

Crying for legitimate reasons such as the death of a love one...heck, even a movie...or due to some REAL HURTFUL emotional stuff or out of happiness is acceptable from my perspective when it comes from a woman.

But crying because things don't go their way? Pathetic.

 

[ExploringOne]

Could be Aspergers/Autism

Nah, I took a full battery of phychiatric tests in college, 3 days of testing... i actually finished in two... I do have some serious abnormalities in the profile, but aspergers and autism are not them

I'm just what's termed a "cold".

 

[Drum&Bass]

i remember when my mother would cry when she used manipulation to try to degrade me and how hurt I would be seeing her in tears, but as I've gotten older and wiser..I began to resent her and any other woman that cried because I later learned what Sir Drinksalot said to be true..

I wish it was some young immature girl that I would forget about but it was my mother and I felt like she played me for such a fool at such a young age.

Now I have no sympathy for a woman in tears.

 

[realsmoothie]

LOL, my mom used to cry on cue, too. It annoyed the heck out of me because I THOUGHT she was just doing it to be manipulative... but in the last couple of times we've had a fight I've realized it's much more than that.

It's definitely a genuine reaction on her part, and stems from all manner of things. I really doubt she does it just to get pity, especially since me and my dad have both basically walked out of the room when she gets that way... i.e. it doesn't work.

 

[blueguy]

I've experienced this plenty of times. I usually laugh inside for one of two reasons:

1. I can tell she is making it up. Or
2. It is over something so small that it makes her look weak.

I generally have lost attraction after this point...

 

[grinder]

I am not immune. Depending on the woman, I usually fold like a house of cards.

 

[STR8UP]

The final straw for me was when my last LTR tried that crying sh!t while lying through her teeth about a bunch of stuff that I KNEW wasn't true.

As far as I'm concerned that sealed the deal for every other woman from that point on.

 

[Last Man Standing]

When a woman cries. it means something - when a hor cries. it means nothing - except manipulation!!!

Say ""No" to crying hos!!!!

 

[KarmaSutra]

When a woman cries it's been my experience she does it to get an emotional fix like a heroin junkie. I turn to stone inside and out when a woman blathers on and on. The only way to combat that behaviour is to turn your back and then punish her with indifference like a fvcking 2 year old.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

As long as you realize that crying is entirely situational. You can't just make a blanket statement like Crying = Manipulation. As many people on here have mentioned, there are legitimate reasons for crying (e.g. death of a loved one).

The longest LTR I've had was with a girl who is highly emotional. About everything, she could be listening to a sad song and would get tears in her eyes. She was the type that would cry at a hallmark commercial. And keep in mind, this was a VERY happy person. The nicest girl I've ever known.

So when we had arguments (which was very rare) she would cry depending on the situation, but it wasn't in manipulation, it was just her nature. I would comfort her and I would not feel like I was being used or manipulated in any way.

Now on the contrary, the most recent relationship I got out of - this girl would use crying as manipulation. If you are pretty good with psycho analyzing people's intent, you won't have a problem seeing the difference between the two. I've learned to go with my internal gut feelings in situations. In the case of the latter g/f, I would feel the laughter start to come and I would laugh. I don't care if I offend the person. She would say "WHAT THE **** are you laughing at?" and I would say "YOU PRINCESS!, you're acting ridiculously."

Anyways - just my .02.

 

[00Kevin]

For the past several years, I've been immune to a woman's tears. When a woman starts crying, I don't feel bad, nor do I feel the need to comfort her. But this is really weird...

The other day, me and my LTR got into an argument about something. Anyway, she turned the waterworks on. Now, the facial expression, the whiny talking, and the stuffy nose were all combined. I was looking at her, trying to listen to her, but trying even harder not to break out laughing my ass off. The way she looked and sounded just seemed fvcking hilarious to me, and I was fighting like mad to hold back the laughter.

Has anybody else experienced this?

I would of just laughed at her. I always go with my gut instincts because they usually cancel out a womans powerplay.

 

[joekerr31]

this is the tricky thing with women. they are able to be genuine AND manipulative at the same time. its the ace up their sleeve.

they really are upset when they cry, but dont fool yourself, they are also looking to manipulate you. its their natural reaction to frustration.

while many men, when they become frustrated, get angry in an attempt to bully the other person and get their way, women will start crying as a form of bullying.

as ive said 10,000 times on here, most women have a 'victim' mentality and use the psychological tricks that all 'victims' use.

personally if a woman starts to cry i use the ultimate counter attack - i turn in to mr. psychologist.

her: (sobbing) you just don't care as much as you should.
me: wooh, hold on a second. i can appreciate you feeling that way but theres something more to this that its impacting you that much.
her: what are you talking about?
me: what's making you cry? thinking that perhaps i dont care as much as i should is one thing, but we can talk that out. the fact that your crying is telling me that theres more under the surface here. what's the real issue? are you afraid im going to leave you? are you afraid that you aren't pretty enough and that i'm going to cheat on you?
her: (confused) what? no no. thats not what im talking about.
me: are you sure? i could understand crying about those things. but we have a problem here because i dont think ive done anything to make you think id ever cheat on you.
her: (really confused) i just wish you'd show me more attention.
me: ok, thats a start. but now why do you think you need more attention? is it to reassure yourself that im not going to leave?
her: (sobbing again) i dont know why i need more attention. i dont know why im crying. i dont know whats going on.
me: that's ok. take some time to think about why this suddenly became an issue and why its impacting you like this.


when a woman cries you are in complete control IF, and only IF, you reframe the discussion. articulate (carefully) how you see her crying as indicative of a much larger issue that shes not dealing with. she will then start to worry that her manipulation tactic is actually making her LESS of a prize to you and will quickly stop.

 

[drmeathead]

stick the histronics up your ass. that was my response to my ex towards the end.

 

[insanity]

wow, i love this topic. 99% of the time a woman will intiate an arguement. when my woman turns on the waterworks. i find it makes me more cold and ****y. then i always hear the lines- you just don't care anymore, you don't love me or you wouldn't treat me like that. i have this voice that my woman just hates. it's almost condesending and gayish. i practically am mocking her. then i start calling her nutbag and she says i'm not crazy. then i leave the room and guess what.....the woman follows too. why would a woman follow you after assaulting their nerves. then i fire up the videogames and let them simmer. an hour or so later they apologize and then all day they tell you how much you mean to them and you hear i love you from them.

never back down from a woman. get in your blows and then fire up the videogames or go and do something. it will give them time to think about how stupid they were.

 

[drmeathead]

i tried that tactic. it made it worse, sometimes violent.