"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Immediate help needed....like now

drf408

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So this chick I actually posted about a while back, met her out we hit it off awesome she even wanted to come with me but her GFs prevented that, got her number. She was soo about meeting me told me "lets get together this weekend or sooner. Very next day she goes cold, weird, so i try again, VERY weird, like she ignores my invite to go out and just tells me to "have a good weekend" after SHE works me hardcore. I say F it and drop it.
I get a text from her a couple weeks ago "Hi how are you!?" Immediately followed by "its $##%$ I hope you remember me!!!" so we start texting back and forth she is super flirty "omg i am happy you though of me" dissapointed she cant see me right away since I had a trip to Canada. I come back (last weekend) more of the same, she sends me a pic of her, tells me how I am great for her lookwise. Then goes distant...so finally today i send her "deja vu...."she responds "aww I have nothing to hide an not playing games, I'm in #@$% how about Sunday night?"

What would you do???
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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scribblec

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personally if you respond i can pretty much garuntee she flakes, let me kno how it goes
 

drf408

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So I shouldn't respond at all???? This s#% is one of the weirdest situations I've had! This girl has come on to me like I'm the most amazing thing ever and then a couple days later..nothing. Her last positive txt on Sunday was telling me I"m hot and she cant wait to see me. She may just be a bia%#%
 

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Erm.... split personality disorder? I'd say ask her out, if she flakes then drop contact. If she contacts you again all flirty like, don't respond. See what she does, that'll let you know if she's really interested or not. It'll make her realise if she flakes on you - your not happy about it. Actions speak louder than words.
 

mahoney

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So in a nutshell - time spent with her=great, time spent texting=not great?

Then... Maybe text less! Or don't worry about the texts?

If date 1 is good and date 2 is good, then why do you care about the texts in-between the dates?

Excessive texting is a massive killer of attraction because it's a blatant plea for reassurance, it highlights your insecurity, it makes a girl feel obligated, and most of the time it's also really kind of boring. Go back and read those texts again, did you really need to write that ? no

Back offa bit in-between the dates, the important thing is the time spent with someone, not the texts inbetween
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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