"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm trying to decide if I should text her

Lycosa

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Hello . I'm new here , so I will introduce myself . My name is Andrew , I'm 24 yo and I'm in a big dilemma . 2 weeks ago , I met a girl at a wedding I attendend as a technician luminist . She smiled at me at first , and that gaved me the courage to make a move . I introduced myself , and we talked . Fast forward , we had coffee and we ate cake from the same plate and I asked her if she liked our first date , and if she wants a second date , she will pick the place . She laughed , I asked for her number and she gave it to me . I texted her right before I went to sleep in the morning that I can't wait for our second date . Since then , I asked her 2 times for a date and she always tell me that she is busy . For the last 3 days , I stopped contacting her and she didn't text me at all . This morning , she added me on Facebook , but still no text from her . My question is : should I keep going with the ignoring part , or I should text her on Facebook since she added me ?


I forgot to mention : she told me in these texts we had that we should meet up and get to know each other better , but those 2 invites were declined with the excuse that she is busy .
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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RangerMIke

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She's not interested. You did your job as a man, you asked her out... she balked... too busy and didn't counter. You are done, move onto the next one. If you keep trying you will only look pathetic. Go get other girls. If she reaches out again, try to make a date, if she says no, then thank her for reaching out and move onto the next one.
 

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I agree with @dustmuffin the most you could do right now and SHOULD do right now is just keep with the no contact and spin other plates. If she contacts you to hangout eventually then maybe she really was busy, but doesn't seem likely. Either way make sure your Facebook gives off the vibe you're a sociable guy that actually has a life, as it's possible she just wanted to creep on your profile to get an idea about that.

But definitely don't give this girl anymore time in your brain lol
 

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Hello . I'm new here , so I will introduce myself . My name is Andrew , I'm 24 yo and I'm in a big dilemma . 2 weeks ago , I met a girl at a wedding I attendend as a technician luminist . She smiled at me at first , and that gaved me the courage to make a move . I introduced myself , and we talked . Fast forward , we had coffee and we ate cake from the same plate and I asked her if she liked our first date , and if she wants a second date , she will pick the place . She laughed , I asked for her number and she gave it to me . I texted her right before I went to sleep in the morning that I can't wait for our second date . Since then , I asked her 2 times for a date and she always tell me that she is busy . For the last 3 days , I stopped contacting her and she didn't text me at all . This morning , she added me on Facebook , but still no text from her . My question is : should I keep going with the ignoring part , or I should text her on Facebook since she added me ?


I forgot to mention : she told me in these texts we had that we should meet up and get to know each other better , but those 2 invites were declined with the excuse that she is busy .
Don't add her on facebook. She only wants to increase her friend count and add yet another orbiter which will feed her ego.

Stop texting all together. She isn't interested. If she hasn't texted back then don't waste anymore time on her.

Denying her friend request on facebook may lead to bread crumbs and her faking some interest. Don't feed it.

Go after new women
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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