"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm too cute

BongDuy

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I'm 19 and I've got a baby face. I'm 5'6'' and look awkward with facial hair, so i always shave. This means I don't look like a 12 year old, but I don't look my age.
I've noticed that almost every girl I meet tells me how cute I am. It would be great, but I'm pretty sure 95% of them mean it in an "adorable puppy" way.

The way I see it is that It's not exactly a negative thing. Girls tend to be very playful with me, but I find that I easily get thrown into the friendzone, or into the Boyfriend zone. I can't really hook up and get laid as easily as much as I want to.

I was wondering what you guys would suggest? As of now, I'm working on kino and just getting used to touching and playfully touching women. I don't really understand how to verbally be sexual yet, and i feel like sexual inneuendos are so damn cheesy, like...
Girl: my lips are soo dry
Guy: I can totally help you out with that *smart ass smile*


I'm trying to get more built, so hopefully that helps me look a little older or more mature.
Any general advice? I've realized that In college, when alcohol is involved, it becomes very easy to hook up and get laid, but im looking for sober advice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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HolyG

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BongDuy said:
I'm trying to get more built, so hopefully that helps me look a little older or more mature.
Any general advice? I've realized that In college, when alcohol is involved, it becomes very easy to hook up and get laid, but im looking for sober advice.

You already know. Go to Health and Fitness forum. Lift!!! Work on deepening your voice (google alpha male voice resonator). Good luck
 

AAAgent

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I have one too. i've always been skinny but i do have some puffy cheeks and i look a lot younger than i am. I'm 23 almost 24 and i still get carded for cigarettes (when i was smoking). I actually don't mind. I'd rather have a baby face than a ugly face. Even with my baby face, i've managed to secure a decent amount of women, break some necks, and have a few try to jump me (literally).

A few pluses i have that you don't are height, i'm 5'11. Another one being size, i was always in shape/muscular. I didn't socialize too much in college because i tried to focus on my studies, and girls would try to find ways to approach/talk to me on campus because they didn't see me at other places. I was never really available to them, not sure if that's a good thing or bad thing but it worked for me.
 

novaknight

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Lift weights?
Best idea I can give to a little guy.

If you're tall like me (which you're not), simply use your height to create a commanding presence (which I'm trying to learn to do)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bryce556

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i have a similar problem, i do get my fair share but i get the "cute" from girls alot more then anything. just last night a fer older older girls maybe in 30's walked up to me and both kissed me on the cheek saying how adorable i am..... im 5'6" and 20 and i look like im 15 apparently. i can get alot of similes and not many negitive reactions but not many girl acually hard on check me out. ive been lifting to gain weight as well.
 
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