"I'm too busy to be tied down"

[clicheusername20]

I just got this line from a woman I've been talking to/hooking up with for a while completely out of the blue. Uhh okay, great, I don't want to be tied down either and never even brought up being exclusive with her. I responded by telling her that. I know what "too busy" usually means, that she's too busy FOR ME and just isn't very interested so I was prepared to next. But then she proceeded to tell me she was pissed that she "wasn't my first choice" to a formal dance I attended last week but "we can try this next semester if I want to." what? is she just trying to keep me on a string?

what's the crazy hamster up to in this case SS?

 

[El Payaso]

You should have agreed and amplified.

"You're right. I've been thinking the same thing too. Being with you is just too much work and in between school and my real job, you're just a huge burden on my time."

 

[( . )( . )]

"I'm too busy to be tied down"

Gross. Any chick who's jumped on the gender role reversal bandwagon and basically vocalizes to you she prizes the c@ck carousel lacks class and genuine feminine grace. NEXT!!

 

[clicheusername20]

Gross. Any chick who's jumped on the gender role reversal bandwagon and basically vocalizes to you she prizes the c@ck carousel lacks class and genuine feminine grace. NEXT!!

You're right. Deleted on all platforms and blocked.

 

[Newby 15]

Not worth your time to be second fiddle in a back up band.

 

[Cremasta]

"I'm not really into bondage either..."

 

[KingBeef]

Awesome, that will be my response when some chick asks me about my feelings...

 

[clicheusername20]

Update: contacted via trivia crack chat this morning. "You're so nice and a great guy but I need my space right now"

wtf, NEXT

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

"we can try this next semester if I want to."

If 'I' want to? B1tch who the fvck do you think you are doing whatever the hell you want to do???? Good thing you nexted her. THAT isn't normal for ANYONE to say, EVER. And after you blocked her, she just HAD to tell you that you needed space through TRIVIA CRACK????

Pathetic. Simply pathetic.

 

[Zarky]

OP she was preemptively dumping you. Apparently (at least what I gleaned from your story) she felt slighted that you didn't ask her to the freshman dance or some sh*t. So she withdrew and "preemptively dumped" you to save her feelings (& ego).

Either way, doesn't matter. This happens a LOT to guys like you and me who aren't interested in committing. Get used to it.

You've got two choices:

1) Say ok later b*tch and move on to other broads
2) Tell her that you're into her. She'll either not believe you and dump you anyway, OR she'll come back to you but you'll have to show signs of commitment.

I usually choose option 1.

Remember, chicks don't have sex just for pleasure. There's always another angle. Ask yourself "What is this chick getting [other than pleasure] by sleeping with me?" If the answer is "nothing," then she's not going to be around very long.

 

[clicheusername20]

OP she was preemptively dumping you. Apparently (at least what I gleaned from your story) she felt slighted that you didn't ask her to the freshman dance or some sh*t. So she withdrew and "preemptively dumped" you to save her feelings (& ego).

Either way, doesn't matter. This happens a LOT to guys like you and me who aren't interested in committing. Get used to it.

You've got two choices:

1) Say ok later b*tch and move on to other broads
2) Tell her that you're into her. She'll either not believe you and dump you anyway, OR she'll come back to you but you'll have to show signs of commitment.

I usually choose option 1.

Remember, chicks don't have sex just for pleasure. There's always another angle. Ask yourself "What is this chick getting [other than pleasure] by sleeping with me?" If the answer is "nothing," then she's not going to be around very long.

I went with option 1. Even for the couple weeks before the dance (it was a formal for my fraternity), I could feel that something was amiss. She flaked on me twice in one night after making plans to hang out, then flaked two nights in a row the following week without the slightest sign of remorse. I was actually planning on asking her to the formal, but I'm sure as hell not going to reward that kind of behavior by spending a boatload of money and a full weekend of time on a girl who lacks a basic level of respect for me and my time. Then she started in with the whole "I'm too busy to be tied down" "need my space right now" BS. Not worth anymore of my precious time in undergrad trying to figure this one out, especially by "telling her I'm into her"