"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"i'm to tired"

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When my g/f tells me she is to tired at 12:30 am to mess around after our date is over. she does have a good excuse she gets up at 6am to go to work. but its the weekend, still i feel turned down..am i being selfish?

how should i be reacting to this? i feel if she really wanted me she would have gotten over her being tired.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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inzone50 said:
When my g/f tells me she is to tired at 12:30 am to mess around after our date is over. she does have a good excuse she gets up at 6am to go to work. but its the weekend, still i feel turned down..am i being selfish?

how should i be reacting to this? i feel if she really wanted me she would have gotten over her being tired.
well, i am getting older over here and i am in bed most nights before 12:30 am and i dont get up until 7.
perhaps you should try earlier and not wait until bed time?
 

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i didn't ask her. she said do you mind if we call it a night. I just so tired.

Earlier she was fine though.

So should i be mad or what?:trouble:
 

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Try getting together earlier then, you fool.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rollo Tomassi

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welcome to married life,..ehr,..wait, this is your girlfriend you say?

Let me explain something to you from a married man's perspective. I can be sleeping in the deepest depths of REM sleep and on the very off chance my wife were to come home from her shift at the hospital to wake me at 2am saying "honey, I'm horny, lets fukk?" rest assured, I would be awake, stiff, ready to go at a moments notice and rearing to hit it again right after the first time. When a person wants to fukk, they'll find a way to fukk, and sleep deprivation will be the smallest inconvenience they'd consider.

After 11 years of marriage I can honestly tell you that "i'm tired" means "I'm not into fukking you tonight" every time. It's like a LJBF for married people.
 

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It's not necessarily anything to worry about. Sometimes people just aren't in the mood for sex (*gasp*).

However, if this was after a "date", then what the heck were you doing. She should've been all hornied up.
 
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